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I just did a test today,and it showed positive..am still a virgin,I haven't had sex before does it mean am pregnant?I just had foreplay with my boyfriend

By October 11, 2012 - 9:27am
 
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Always wash your hands before eating, before touching eyes nose, mouth, or genitals, and after going to the bathroom, sneezing, and sexual activity because it always a good idea to keep our hands clean and that goes for all of us.

1. Virigin status - It doesn't matter. Life is meant to be enjoyed and as long as you are intimate with a partner who mutually loves and respects you, then go ahead and enjoy! As a feminist, it is insulting that there is so much emphasis for a woman to be a "virgin" while no one really expects males to do the same. I say things should be equal and sex itself isn't bad!

The behaviors you engage in are irrelevant as long as you are safe about it. First you and your partners should be tested by a doctor for any Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). Second before you have sex with anyone, give them a physical exam yourself to see if everything looks normal (For abnormal: http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/ss/slideshow-std-pictures-and-facts), since blood tests may not be up to date. Always use a condom for any type of sex oral, anal, vaginal, ALL the time and remember that if the person has HPV, syphilis, or lice, you can get these with just skin-to-skin contact.

2. Pregnancy - If you took a pregnancy test, then head to your doctor to get confirmed. I agree with Susan to take another test in the meantime. All it takes to get pregnant is for a sperm to reach an egg and sometimes when people are so focused on the moment, it is hard to remember what touched what, so head to your doctor.

If you are pregnant, talk to your doctor about your options to abort if you are not ready to support another human being. You can also put the child up for adoption, but with all the risks that pregnancy carries, I think this is an unnecessary risk to you. Find an adult you trust to share your concerns with and just have them listen to you so that you can work out what you are feeling. If not, find a therapist to listen to you. It is amazing when someone else can validate whatever you are feeling (whatever your feelings are about being pregnant). Then figure out what you are going to do.

If you are not pregnant, that is a blessing! Head to your doctor to talk about IUDs, or implants, pills, or shots. Being a mother is over-rated and it doesn't take any talent to get pregnant. Once you decide to have a child, that becomes the new priority and isn't it nice to just be able to get up and go wherever you feel like, whenever? I see my girlfriends with their children. Cute as a button the kids are, but the parents look so tired!

October 13, 2012 - 5:21pm
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