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I lied to him about not being pregnant?

By Anonymous March 31, 2012 - 6:05pm
 
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Today I told the father of my child that I wasn't pregnant....
I took some tests and they were negative. I still didn't feel right and I went to the clinic (without him) to check. They told me I was around 4 weeks pregnant and had low hormone levels that probably weren't detected by the test.
When I told him, he told me that he wanted me to take tests infront of him since I didn't go with him to the clinic. He was just being a dick about the whole thing, and while I understood it, it was uncalled for. It pissed me off that he didn't trust me. How are you supposed to have a baby with someone you don't trust? Also, I heard a lot of things he said about me and when we hooked up. He basically ruined my reputation.

So when I got home I told him that I got my period and had been taking hcg supplement that probably affected my test results. He seemed really happy and relieved and told me that he would clear up the rumors. But how can he do that when he was already "telling people"?
I want to confront him about this **** , and tell him the truth, but I have a feeling he'd be very angry and also wouldn't believe me. My hearts really not in it with this baby and the dads a big player. Before he found out I was possibly pregnant he hadn't even talked to me for a few weeks after we hooked up a few times. Even if I do get an abortion, I wish he could be there. But I dont think that's a possibility now. I do want to go get my lucky rosary before if I do , but I dont want to go to his house and seem like I'm trying to be in his buisness 24/7.
Please do not lecture me about abortion please. I've got enough on my plate. I truly feel alone and like I have ****** up. I even googled if it was possible to turn back time. I feel very emotional and desperate now and I dont want to do anything irrational. I dont know what to do about the situation, did I do the wrong thing? Thanks for the help!

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Hi Anonymous,

Thank you for your question and I am sorry that your baby's Dad is being a "poo head" for a lack of a better term. If I was in your situation, I would agree with how you are feeling and the choices you are making.

I would make an appointment and then ask him to come with you to the doctors appointment. Just explain to him that you were afraid due to the rumor mill that occurred when you thought you were not pregnant. Also explain your choice and ask for him to come with you as you do not want to go through it alone. I would explain this all to him to make sure that he doesn't feel as if you are trying to force him into being with you as it seems from your post, that he was trying to "not" be with you after your sexual relations. This is never easy for any woman to deal with a break up let alone having a pregnancy to deal with afterwards.

You are not alone as many women have been in the same situation. Be strong, ask for his support but remember that if he is not there for you, call one of your girlfriends or your family to help you through this time. I hope this helps but please share more if you need to talk. We are here for you.

Good luck,

Missie

April 1, 2012 - 5:51am

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