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i need drug or medical attention on how to prevent my self

By Anonymous December 9, 2011 - 3:12am
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i am a young lady of 22 years old, and a virgin. i fell in love with a dynamic young man who feared God and he's working toward perfection in the sight of God, but i am having problem of sex with him because since we started dating for five years now he did not ask me for sex. but now he is disturbing me very much about that and i keep on giving him excuses, it's getting worse because he is thinking that i am keeping my self for another man. He has showed me love in may ways.

i am depriving it from him because i don't know how to protect myself from having unwanted pregnancy. i feel ashame to ask my friends, i feel they will laugh at me or give me a wrong answer to my question. please i need a help.

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Hi Anonymous,

Thanks for posting and I really must applaud you for abstaining from sex for 5 years and being very responsible. 

If an unwanted pregnancy is the only reason why you don't want to have sex with your boyfriend then this isn't as big of a problem as you may think because there are many forms of contraceptives that are highly effective. 

First there is the only one that will protect against pregnancy and against sexually transmitted diseases: the condom. It is very effective, no side effects, and can be purchased at any drug store. 

Then there are oral contraceptives which are taken daily by mouth and these are only available with a prescription because your OB/GYN needs to determine if you have any risks of blood clots or other side effects. 

The depo-provera shot is also administered by a health professional every 3 months and is a good option for someone who doesn't like taking pills, can't remember taking them, and wants to prevent pregnancy. 

These are a few options-- you can combine any birth control option with the male condom just for added security.

Hope this helps!


December 9, 2011 - 7:26am
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