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I never want to do anything or go anywhere?

By February 18, 2015 - 11:52am
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Every time I come home I always think I don't want to go to school or work or hang out with friends. I just want to go home. I wanna be comfortable. I just want to stay in my room and be left alone. I don't feel motivated to do anything. I really just get exhausted from everything that I am doing and just want to be by myself all the time.
I signed myself up for a few things but I regret my decisions. I initially did it to make myself more social and gain new experiences but I just feel like it's a waste of time. I think back to the time I was in high school and I was so motivated, ambitious, and disciplined and now...I've lost all of that completely. I just feel empty. Anything I do feels pointless and being around people is draining.

I don't know how to fix this. I feel like life will be a lot less draining if I was motivated...but I don't even know where to start.

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Sounds like you grew up and figured out life, realized that its pointless and then you die. On the other hand if you dont enjoy anything at all , its a different story and you may have actual medical condition.

Too many "doctors" write off problems with pills and depression diagnoses now days. I feel its wrong telling people of extreme and to most scary potential outcomes. Impressionable individuals may experience the placebo effect. Especially if they have a personality with a hypochondriac trait.

Many many more questions need to be asked, for starters, what is the alternative to " not doing anything or going anywhere", the actual task, and how do you feel doing it?

It sounds like you may be a college student, are you leading an active life style, physical activity? Get enough rest and how do you sleep?

February 24, 2015 - 7:05pm
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Hi dreamconfetti

Thanks for contacting us.

It sounds like you may have depression - either the kind that is caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain (rather than from outside/environmental causes) or possibly seasonal affective disorder - caused by lack of sunlight, short days and winter weather. 

Some people like solitude. Nothing wrong with wanting to be home a lot, feeling safe, cosy and with lots of privacy.

But since this is not the way you usually are, then depression may be the cause. 

Signs of depression are fatigue, feelings of hopelessness, and shunning activities, places and people you would normally surrounded yourself with.

Depression is common, Anon. And there is lots of help. Vitamin D, sunshine (you can get a light box that mimics sunshine) and exercise are excellent medications for depression. So is talk therapy. You also may need some medication. You may need a combination of everything. 

Dreamconfetti, we cannot diagnose you, only guide you to see help. Will you talk with someone about this and let us know how it goes? We're here for you when you need to talk.



February 18, 2015 - 4:36pm
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