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I was a virgin but my boyfriend doesn't think so?

By Anonymous July 25, 2015 - 12:06am
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I was a virgin up until a few weeks back and I told my boyfriend about it and we slept together. He told me two days ago that he discovered I lied to him because I didn't bleed, I was kind of loose and his two fingers were able to pass through my vagina. Now I am really confused because though I insisted that I haven't had set before he keeps on saying am lying and now am psychologically traumatised because I don't understand the how's and why's

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Hello, I'm so sorry to hear about the treatment you received from your boyfriend.
There are some common myths about what happens when a girl has sex for the first time. It seems your boyfriend believes some of them.
Myth #!: bleeding occurs the first time a girl has sex.
Truth: bleeding can occur but rarely does. It can happen if the hymen tears. However, some girls are not even born with a hymen; or the hymen is not very visible. When a girl is properly aroused, she will create enough lubricant for there to be no tear or bleeding at all.
Myth #2: a virgin's vagina should be tight, not loose.
Truth: This is not necessarily true. The tightness of the vagina, whether you are a virgin or not, varies greatly from person to person.
Myth #3: first time sex is painful for girls.
Truth: Sex for the first time will not be painful as long as you are relaxed and well lubricated.

In conclusion, it is important to education yourself about your own body. This empowers you to avoid the trauma that a guy (who does not have a vagina) can cause you through misleading misconceptions.


July 25, 2015 - 12:54pm
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