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Im 21 and have no sex drive....WHY????

By Anonymous November 3, 2011 - 2:07pm
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im 21 years old and for the past yr i have barely had any sex drive. and when i do force myself to be in the mood and try to have sex with my boyfriend im dry as EVER!!!! down there...its starting to take its toll on our relationship='( im 21 yrs old i shouldnt be having this problem! i love my boyfriend and want to have sex with him but my body just isnt working right....CAN SOME PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

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Are you currently taking birth control pills? According to a report on abc News, "Birth control pills that contain estrogen and progesterone can cause a low libido or sex drive."

Are you under more stress than normal? Fatigue, anxiety or stress related to work, school or family issues can cause a decreased sex drive.

According to the Mayo Clinic, 'If you experience pain during sex (dyspareunia) or inability to orgasm (anorgasmia), it can hamper your desire for sex. A glass of wine may make you feel amorous, but too much alcohol can spoil your sex drive; the same is true of street drugs."

Since it is causing you concern and negatively impacting your relationship with your boyfriend, consider making an appointment with either your primary care physician or your gynecologist to discuss possible causes and treatments.


November 3, 2011 - 3:22pm
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Anonymous (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

thanks soo much for answering my question...i am not currently on BC although i was thinking i should start taking it agian because mayb the extra hormones would help? I have been haveing this problem for over a year and have been to my doctor and a specalist numerous times!i have had a colposcopy and a transvaginal ultrasound and they can not find the problem...i have reoccuring yeast and bacterical infections, and pain during sex and now no sex drive at all...i have no idea what could be causeing all if this!!
I am not a very healthy eatter and the last time i went to the doctor she said my iron levels were low and to take a pre-natal vitamin, i have been doing that with and still no changes... do you have any ideas on other lines of treatment??
i have a doctors appointment next week, just because i need some answers and cant just ignore the fact that i have no interest in sex anymore

November 14, 2011 - 7:28pm
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