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im 25 my fiance is 20 and he doesnt want to sleep with me amymore

By Anonymous October 25, 2009 - 4:55pm
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i think that hes sleeping with someone else. we have a daughter who is a year. it was a struggle to get him to try to sleep, hes pleasuring himself

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Hi Anon

Can you tell us why neither of you can seek counseling?

There are free counseling sessions available in most areas, as well as via churches and other community organizations.

Are you saying 'no' that he won't go (or you won't go) or no, there are none available? We can help you find some help - let us know your general area or you can send a personal message if you prefer. Please give us as much information as you can about your situation so that we can help you and of course, you can always remain anonymous.

October 26, 2009 - 12:28pm
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October 26, 2009 - 3:04am
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ive spoken to him but all he does is shout. he gets a hardon while hes sleeping, is he dreaming another wonen?

October 25, 2009 - 5:21pm
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Men commonly have erections while they are sleeping, or upon waking, and this is a completely involuntary response. They may be having an erotic dream, it may be an exciting dream without sex..or it could be a response to a full bladder. This is normal and nothing to be suspicious about.

What concerns me is that you talk with him about a issue, and he shouts. Are you two able to seek counseling to work on communication issues?

October 25, 2009 - 6:09pm

I'm sorry that you believe your fiance is having an affair. It also sounds like not only you have lost trust in him, but you are concerned with him "pleasuring himself" and not sleeping...I'm not sure I understand this completely. (Is this a daily/nightly occurrence that he is masturbating, why are you struggling to try to get your fiance to sleep?).

Have you spoken with him about your concerns? Do you have specific behaviors that you have observed that trouble you, either connected with him (allegedly) cheating on you, or why you two no longer have sex (or are intimate?). Is he equally concerned about the lack of intimacy between the two of you?

October 25, 2009 - 5:16pm
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