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i'm having an affair how do i stop

By July 31, 2011 - 9:43am
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i find myself having a relationship with an ex boyfriend,the hardest part is i'm married with kids 1 is the ex our relationship wasn't the best but now its different my husband is the best i need to get out of this situation how do i even begin

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hi kimmo,
first off what was it that led to the affair? what was missing in your marriage that caused you to look for it somewhere else? That has a lot to do with it. If things are better in your marriage then end the affair asap. I think your children are the most important part in all of this. If you want to keep your marriage end the affair and don't look back. Its up to whether you want your husband to know. If your certain it won't happen again then maybe you should keep it to yourself. It could cause more problems for your marriage. And who's to say he will stay with you if you brought it to his attention. Good luck and keep us posted.

August 23, 2011 - 4:40pm
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Hi Kimmo,
You are certainly in a tough situation. The real answer is you need to stop immediately, cut it off completely. The other dilemma is do you tell your husband of your indiscretions? Remove yourself from your situation and think about how you would want your husband to deal with this situation if he was cheating on you? Taking yourself out of your own situation (shoe on other foot syndrome) usually helps me.

There is certainly no easy answer to these questions or to your question in general. The best answer would have been not even letting yourself start the affair in the first place. Counseling is certainly an option whether it is family or by yourself.

Please keep us updated and good luck.


July 31, 2011 - 10:09am
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