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I'm scared!! Advice needed!!!!

By October 30, 2014 - 1:37pm
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Well the symptoms were there. All signs pointed to pregnancy. I went for a walk Sunday and when I got home I started getting dizzy w/ a headache and nausea so I went to the ER and I just needed fluid and they did a blood test and it was negative. My heart dropped. "I really wanted to be pregnant and all signs were there so why was it negative?" I thought to myself. I just thought that maybe my levels were too low so I just left it alone. The next morning I was a little crampy but I didn't think too much of until I decided to go to the restroom and a little blood was down there so I was thinking "okay that's natural a little spotting" and decided I'd go back in another 45 mins to make sure it doesn't get any worse but before then my cramps started to become stronger then I got back up and it was a lot more blood so I cried because I was hoping that it wasn't my cycle but it was but the cramps started to become UNBEARABLE!! They were there the whole day off into the next. Today, I went to the bathroom because my bladder felt really full and next thing I know I heard something just drop right out so I think a blood clot and I looked and the devastation of it all was just ., just heart- wrenching and so sad because I didn't understand. I keep saying its all my fault and that maybe if I wouldn't have gone on that walk that it'd still be here or things like that. My mom is suppose be making an appointment with her Gyno but she doesn't know what happened today. I'm really scared!! Could it be possible that I miscarried or should I not worry and wait for some actually test results before I go into deep depression?? Because I'm almost there.

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Hi Pam,

Thank you for your very positive words. They were truly encouraging and are the best words I've heard all day. I really needed that. You know, it's really hard to think that you (as in I) was harboring an actual life inside and to think that now, it's gone. No chance to even have personality or develop emotions or anything. I really hope I get some kind of good news tomorrow. Thank you again for your positive words.

October 30, 2014 - 9:16pm
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Hi Dawnyale -

Thanks for sharing your heartfelt concerns and your story. It's clear that things have been very difficult for you recently.

The symptoms for pregnancy and for PMS ( pre-menstrual syndrome that comes before just before a period) can be very similar and make things confusing. From what you've described you had a difficult period and passed a clot. This happens all the time, to many women.

It's good that your mom is getting you an appointment to see her gynecologist. You need to get answers and options for normalizing your periods, or getting pregnant, if that's what you truly desire.

Better days are ahead for you, so please find a way to hold on a bit longer until you can get in to see the doctor and get more information to help you move forward.

Hope that helps,


October 30, 2014 - 5:56pm
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