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Is it normal for a 29 year-old woman to have an over-powering and life-altering sex drive?

By Anonymous July 7, 2013 - 4:37pm
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When I was young, before I had kids, I knew I had a very high sex drive for anyone my age. After my husband and I had kids, my sex drive would be weak for about a year post-partum, but would always return to something I viewed as normal and healthy. Not crazy like it was before, but good for my age compared with my peers. I had my third child 7 months ago, and had to have a c-section, which threw off the natural order of things for me. I had absolutely no sex drive for about 6 months, and then about a month ago, it came back stronger than it has ever been! Sex dominates my thoughts all day, and it is effecting my life negatively in my eyes. My husband, who is a sexually healthy 30 year-old man, cannot keep up with me. I have found myself on sex video-chat sites, chatting and more with other men. This is COMPLETELY out of character for me! Is this normal, and will it pass? Could it have something to do with having a c-section? I feel like a horney teenage boy, and I feel that I cannot help myself.

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Im 29 and im always horny ....and Iwant my fiancee all the timee but hes 30 also and he jacksoff to porn ....so I use a vibrater is this bad cause I want him all the time

November 2, 2013 - 12:51am
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Anonymous (reply to essler1)

Hi essler1,

Welcome to EmpowHER.  It's normal to feel the need to be intimate with someone you are attracted to or in relationship with.  What's not normal is him, desiring looking at porn instead of wanting to be intimate with you.  You might need to let him know how you feel about his and if he is not wiling to change.  You will need to make a decision if it's worth staying in this relationship. Hope this was helpful?



November 3, 2013 - 5:35pm
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Hi Anon,

Welcome to EmpowHER. All sorts of changes in your life could increase your sex drive.  If you're done with child-bearing, for example, you may simply have more energy to devote to your sex drive.  Alternatively, it could be your biological clock gearing up for one more child before you turn 40.  Any of an array of changes in your life, from better health to starting (or stopping)  birth control pill can also increase your sex drive.



July 8, 2013 - 4:54am
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