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Is it outercourse?

By Anonymous August 26, 2013 - 3:56pm
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My boyfriend and I were making out, and he keeps trying to dry hump me. I keep moving away and so he rubs against other parts of me... like my leg or near my vagina, but not on my vagina. Does that count as dry sex/dry humping/outercourse?


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Hello Anonymous,

Yes, this activity is outercourse, also referred to as dry humping or dry sex.


August 26, 2013 - 5:04pm
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Anonymous (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

so, if I consider oral sex to be sex... does that mean I had sex with him?

August 27, 2013 - 12:04am
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Hello Anonymous,

Yes, oral sex is sexual activity.

Let me point out that sexually transmitted diseases or STDs, including HIV, herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, HPV, and viral hepatitis can be passed on through oral sex. Be careful.


August 27, 2013 - 4:21pm
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Anonymous (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

I guess I didn't phrase that right. I didn't have oral sex with him, because I consider that sex. I'm a virgin, but I wanted to make sure that his rubbing against my leg didn't mean I had sex with him. It wasn't something I initiated with him, and I told him to stop but after a while he would start in again. I guess I just want to make sure I didn't accidentally go too far with him... if that makes sense? :( Thanks, Maryann

August 27, 2013 - 5:53pm
Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hello Anonymous,

Your boyfriend may be ready to go all the way. Are you?
The decision to be sexually active is yours. It is something you and your boyfriend need to talk about and be respectful of each other. If you are ready, then you need to choose and use birth control regularly and consistently.


August 28, 2013 - 4:40pm
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