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Is it really ok that I am positive for Trichomoniasis and my boyfriend is negative??

By March 31, 2010 - 9:39am
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I was diagnosed with this last week and was given 2 Grams of Flagyl antibiotic. I told my boyfriend and he went to his doctor (thats where he feels comfortable) and his doctor performed a urine and penial analysis. His test came back negative? So he was not treated. We both have not cheated and have been together a year this month.

I am going back to the doctors today at 3pm because I dont think the medicine is working for me because as of yesterday I am having a thick discharge. ((Sorry if its t.m.i))

When I called my doctor they said I may need to take the treatment 2 pills a day for 7 days.

What do you think??
Is it normal that my boyfriend is negative and not medicated but I am positive and have to be treated??

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Hi I'm in the same boat I got a phone call from my doctor saying I'm positive for trich my boyfriend got a test his results were negative I haven't had sex with anyone but him please help me understand this I tried to kill this man because I thought he gave me a STD but it turns out I'm POSITIVE an he's NEGATIVE howww?

August 28, 2017 - 7:37pm
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My husband was just diagnosed with Trich. Of course the first thing he asks me is if I cheated. WTH? We have been married for 22 years and I have never slept with anyone else. He swears he hasn't either. I just had a Pap smear less than a month ago and I have NO signs of Trich. How is this possible?

July 19, 2017 - 9:20am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

If your husband has it and you dont most likely he bc men only catch it from woman.

August 28, 2017 - 6:09am
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I just found out today I have Trich. I had a miscarriage about 14 weeks ago and I am now 7 weeks pregnant again. I have had the same partner for a year and a half. I was wondering if it was possible that I got this before the first baby or if he could have had it and not transmitted it until now? I am sure he has been faithful but because of this I am really upset.

July 3, 2017 - 10:41pm
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Trich can happen without any cheating happening. It can occur after using a damp towel to clean yourself, using a rag or piece of clothing to clean yourself after intercourse and even after a miscarriage. Everyone assumes it happens due to cheating. That isn't always the case.

June 14, 2017 - 7:56am
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I am going through my worst nightmare since Friday. I am very phobic of STD's and have only been sexual with my husband since we got married in 2013. I've had several vaginal exams done between 2012-2014 because of a few fibroids that eventually led to a hysterectomy. I've never had any symptoms of any infections (UTI, Yeast, etc). I've been tested for STDs in 2014 and everything was negative. Again, I have never been with another man other than my husband since 2013. (Before him I ALWAYS made the gentleman wear a condom).
Because I had a hysterectomy I wasn't aware that I had to continue to have pelvic exams yearly. When I was informed that I did, I made an appointment and saw my dr to get it done. He asked if I wanted to have an STD screening done while he is examining me, at first I said no, there was no need since we are married and my last tests were negative and I haven't been with anyone but him. Then I said just go ahead, I know I'm negative, and maybe having the tests done will just be something I can say I did and put it behind me. Well, after the exam was done, he said everything looked great and my ovary was normal, he sent me off to complete the STD screening (blood work), and he will send in the vaginal swab test and have that tested as well. No big deal, whatever you gotta do I'm okay with. I'll see ya next year.
Well, Friday came and I get a call from the doctor himself telling me that all my results came back negative except for one. I have Trich. Not knowing what that was, he explained that it is a bacterial infection containing a parasite that you can only get with having unprotected sex with someone who got it from someone else during unprotected sex and that I had only just got it because I have no symptoms and they only found a trace of it. I said well, I only have sex with my husband and if what you're saying is true then he must have cheated on me. Being at work while this call came in was so hard to keep from losing it emotionally. On my lunch break I called my husband and asked him to pick up a prescription for me. He asked questions that I wasn't prepared to answer. But after grilling me I caved and told him I got an std and I am freaking out and don't know what to think. Immediately he got upset and said he never cheated on me and that I had to have cheated. He said he is going to make an appointment himself and get tested. I told him that we had sex 6 times over the course of two weeks and it's not going to change his results, he will test positive, because if I have it, the dr said he is going to test positive. He said he is going to get tested anyway.
He got tested on Mon and got his results today. I'm in shock, his results are negative!!! What in the world? How? I called my doctor this morning, and he said, it's possible you could've had a false positive result, we should have you come back in and test again, this has happened before and the second test has shown a negative result, why this happens is always a mystery. I said I can't, I already took the medication the day you called my prescription in. It's going to show negative now. He said well, then we will never know the answer, but you took the medication so you're safe from the infection now. What? That's his answer? What about my marriage? We are no longer the close and loving people we were prior to this test result. He thinks I am unfaithful and I think he is unfaithful (could he have taken meds knowing his affair had it, and now his results are negative?). How am I positive and he is negative and yet we have been having unprotected sex up until my test and the day after my test? Someone please help explain this to me. I am an emotional mess over this and about to lose my marriage over it.
Thank you

May 2, 2017 - 8:24pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Omg im in the same boat as you

August 30, 2017 - 7:47pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I really feel for you. I too was in your situation about 6 months ago. I'd used hair removal cream on my bikini area and sometimes it causes itching when the hair regrows. Thinking this was the case, I thought nothing of it... after a few weeks, the itching became worse and I began experiencing bloody discharge. Panicked, I made an appt with my Dr. During this whole ordeal, my partner was aware of everything going on. The nurse I'd spoken with over the phone said that they'd run some tests and an ultrasound. She said if everything came back negative she'd have to do an endoscopy. By this time I was freaking out. 3 days after I had the exam I received a phone call with the most devastating news of my life. I was told I had trichomoniasis!! Here I was, 41 years old, faithful to my partner of 13 years being told I had an STI. I too was at work when I received this call. Quietly leaving my office to rant in my car, I confronted my partner about my condition. I never revealed what I had because I wanted him to go and get tested himself. I too thought that I was being cheated on and felt that if I held back on what I had he'd have to confront his filthy lover. He went to his Dr the same day. Because he didn't know exactly what it was he had they tested for everything and treated him. Imagine my anger when all his tests came back negative. I called my Dr. and told her his results were negative, could this have been something else. She said no. He called his Dr and was told about the use of damp towels, or possible infection had we been in a Jacuzzi, which we hadn't. We do use damp towels to clean up after sex. This whole ordeal put a strain on our relationship. I was convinced he was cheating and he was upset because I didn't trust him. Our sex life halted, for 5 months. When we initiated sex again we used condoms. About a week ago, we stopped using condoms. Now, the itching has returned. I'm seriously thinking it could be the damp towels. We both were treated and both finished all our medication as prescribed. So I know neither of us had it still, or at least I didn't have it still. Now I dread bringing this up again, because we'd gotten back to a good place, even though it was hell to get there. Do you and your husband wipe down with damp towels after sex, because that may be the trigger. I hope your situation works out for the best. I was in your shoes before and have stepped in them again, so I know the pain and hurt you have. But he may actually not have cheated, just as you have not. Do research and exhaust all possible scenarios, you may find more answers out there.

July 15, 2017 - 4:45am
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I was dating my ex and he gave me trich we both got treated he apologized it has been 3 months since I got cured I broke up with him and got with a new guy who is my boyfriends now we had sex the condom broke and the doctor told me I had clymidia I told my boyfriend and he got tested and came back positive too we both got treated he explained he must of had it from the past and didn't know I gave he another chance since I also found out I was pregnant my bf is I'm jail now before we went we lived together and we never left eachother side I yelled at him and told me he gave me trich and I broke up with him he swears he didn't cheat and says he will show Me his results that he tested negative when he gets out of jail the doctor told Me that wen I had the clymida I didnt have trich is it possible that trich can. Become reactive in ur body even though u get treated ? Or is it safe to say he 100% cheated ? Or is clymida and trich two different test and the doctor is lieing ? Idk what to believe please help

April 26, 2017 - 9:45pm
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My boyfriend was positive for trichomonas but I was negative he says he haven't had sex with anybody else and I haven't had sex with nobody but him five months ago he just found out he had it 3 weeks ago

April 8, 2017 - 6:33am
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