Is it really ok that I am positive for Trichomoniasis and my boyfriend is negative??

Please help. I am kind of in the same boat. I was in the hospital got sick major surgery on intestines they cut out part of my colon for diverticulitis. My wife was by my side the entire time only leaving to take the kids to school and check on the house. She thought she had a urine infection and since we were already at the hospital she went to the urgent care. Right before I was discharged they called and told her she had trich. She told them that was impossible and that she had been with her husband for 14 years. She told me what they said and we went back and to urgent care and the nurse was very rude and said "You can only get it from sexual contact I have other patients" and walked away. We wwent to another clinic and again it came back as trich. My wife denies having cheated. She says one of the toilets splashed her more than once in different parts of the hospital. In my room we had to share a toliet with another room and she was not supposed to use it. I have interrogated her for hours. She swears on our kids lives saying she didn't do it. At one point she put 2 guns to her head as I interrogated her. Her answers have not changed. "I didn't do it. I didn't cheat on you. I don't know how I got it." She insists she didn't do anything and I should believe her. Then I tell her "Then I tell her how did you get the diease then?" She says "I don't know?" She is willing to take a lie detector or any test. It seems like she is telling the truth. I have watched dozens of videos on you tube to look for signs of lying. She seems sincere. The cdc, department of health, all lab technicians say you can only get it by having sex. I put my finger in her the day before she had the discharge. Could my dirty finger of done it as I had not washed my hands? I was hooked up to IVs, antibiotics, different techs coming in etc? I don't trust her anymore. Might divorce her. No matter what the jerks at the clinics all swear you can't get it from a toilet seat. But what about the water going up from a strong toilet flush. I may never believe her. Can a hospital have a higher chance of the std being in toilet water? I read it lives for 45 minutes outside the body. I need the truth even as I write this she says she didn't do anything, over and over as I interrogate. She says she would tell me if she did anything. It never ends. A circle and now I don't trust her even though it seems like she is telling the truth. The cdc and lab tech say "you can only get it from sexual contact. It's killing me.

Hello Anonymous,

Thank you for reaching out to us.

Citing the CDC, "Trichomoniasis (or “trich”) is a very common sexually transmitted disease (STD) that is caused by infection with a protozoan parasite called Trichomonas vaginalis. Although symptoms of the disease vary, most women and men who have the parasite cannot tell they are infected.

The parasite is passed from an infected person to an uninfected person during sex. In women, the most commonly infected part of the body is the lower genital tract (vulva, vagina, cervix, or urethra), and in men, the most commonly infected body part is the inside of the penis (urethra). During sex, the parasite is usually transmitted from a penis to a vagina, or from a vagina to a penis, but it can also be passed from a vagina to another vagina. It is not common for the parasite to infect other body parts, like the hands, mouth, or anus. It is unclear why some people with the infection get symptoms while others do not, but it probably depends on factors like the person’s age and overall health. Infected people without symptoms can still pass the infection on to others.

About 70% of infected people do not have any signs or symptoms. When trichomoniasis does cause symptoms, they can range from mild irritation to severe inflammation. Some people with symptoms get them within 5 to 28 days after being infected, but others do not develop symptoms until much later. Symptoms can come and go.

Men with trichomoniasis may feel itching or irritation inside the penis, burning after urination or ejaculation, or some discharge from the penis.

Women with trichomoniasis may notice itching, burning, redness or soreness of the genitals, discomfort with urination, or a change in their vaginal discharge (i.e., thin discharge or increased volume) with an unusual smell (i.e., fishy odor) that can be clear, white, yellowish, or greenish.

Having trichomoniasis can make it feel unpleasant to have sex. Without treatment, the infection can last for months or even years.

Anonymous, schedule an appointment with your primary care physician and be tested specifically for trichomoniasis.

Regards,
Maryann