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Late period with mono....trying not to panic...am i pregnant?

By June 7, 2009 - 7:29pm
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I'm a 21 year old female. I have always had a very irregular period. It can range from 25 days (which only happened like once or twice) up to 40 something days (which isn't very often but isn't a total rarity). Normally it comes sometime between 30 and 35 days. However, its always been very frustrating for me because I never can predict when it will decide to show up.

Anyway, that being said, heres my question. My last period started May 2 and went for about 5-6 days. I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend on May 23 and 24, but he is and always has been very careful about 'pulling out' several seconds before he ejaculates and has never actually ejaculated in me. We had unprotected sex again on May 29 and again he did not actually ejaculate in me, but it there was some on my upper thigh. I don't think any got in me, but its hard to tell.

However, its now June 7, which makes it day 37 and I still have not gotten my period. I have had some PMS symptoms earlier this week (I tend to get migraines in the week or so leading up to my period) but nothing other than that. However, there is one major health stress I've been dealing with - I was diagnosed with mono about a week ago. I've been feeling really tired and under the weather, with a really severe sore throat for about three weeks now. I'm currently on heavy doses of ibprofen for pain and the steroid predisone to take down the swelling in my throat. It has made me totally inactive and tired all the time, and my appetite and eating habits have fluctuated like crazy because of it.

I guess I'm just really really paranoid about being pregnant. I've taken TWO home pregnancy tests (First Response) and both turned out negative (one taken on day 34 and one taken today on day 37). The problem is that since I don't really have a normal 'cycle' per say (that I've ever been able to figure out), its hard to judge when my 'missed' period would start. I'm going to the doctor next Friday so I suppose I could ask then, but its really just making me nervous. Any advice or hints would be great - how likely would it be that I'm pregnant?

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thanks again for the information - just as an update, I finally got my period (after 42 days!) and saw my doctor. I'm on birth control now, so hopefully this will regulate my period as well as preventing future worries about pregnancy.


June 15, 2009 - 3:42pm

You sound very stressed about this---I'm sorry! With irregular cycles, it is impossible for us to tell you if you are pregnant or not, and how likely it is.

I can tell you it is likely that sperm was inside your vagina with unprotected intercourse, whether or not your boyfriend ejaculated inside or "pulled out" in time. An erect penis can have some ejaculate (containing sperm) on the tip. This "pre-ejaculate" is present on a erect penis even before the man has an orgasm and ejaculates.

It is much less likely that you would become pregnant through pre-ejaculate (compared to a man that ejaculates fully into the back of the vagina, near the cervix), but it is possible.

Home pregnancy tests are about 99% accurate when taken after a missed period, and you should know either way within the week. I'm sorry you have to wait this long, I know it can be agonizing!

Please let us know how your doctor's visit goes, and be sure to educate yourself of birth control options, as well as emergency contraception. (We're hear to answer those questions, too).

June 7, 2009 - 8:50pm
(reply to Alison Beaver)

Thanks for the response! I figured it would be difficult to find anyone who could give me a straight answer (other than my actual doctor haha) based on my irregular cycles and what not. I think that the mono is throwing my body for a loop as well - its been a stressful few weeks trying to find out what was wrong and now that I know, its still been pretty hard on my body. I'm nearing day 40 and its still not shown up. I'm scheduled to see my regular doctor on Friday, and I definitely am planning on getting a prescription for the pill so that I don't have to worry as much AND I can hopefully regulate my periods a little bit (having such an irregular period is a huge pain!)

I'll be sure to keep you posted on my situation. Hopefully my period shows up in the next few days.

Thanks again for the response!

June 8, 2009 - 5:14pm
EmpowHER Guest

You're probably okay since the tests were negative, but why are you putting yourself through this? Get down to your local Planned Parenthood Center and get a pill prescription. Better yet, if you're seeing a doctor ask for the pill and Plan B in case you need it. You'll have regular periods and you won't have to depend on your boyfriend's timing as birth control. Take control over your own body while there is still time.

June 7, 2009 - 8:33pm
(reply to Anonymous)

Unfortunately there isn't a local Planned Parenthood. I live in a small college town and while there used to be one a few years ago, it was shut down due to statewide budget cuts. However, I am headed to my actual doctor back home on Friday, where I will be getting a prescription for the pill to hopefully regulate my periods as well as obviously act as my primary method of birth control. Thanks for the tips though - I know I need to get on top of it.

June 8, 2009 - 5:05pm
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