Hello , I am a 21 year old girl . I come from a conservative background. I go to university . The past two years I have fallen into the weirdest situation any girl can fall into .
During my second year of university , there is this guy who has spotted me on campus , he works with me in a voluntary work organization , he first made a move tried to speak with me , then , he added me on Facebook , then on windows live , we started to chat online , then someday a girl that doesn't know him well , comes up to me and says that I have a secret admirer. So , I keep searching and searching and thinking to find out who that is , sometimes the guy that I have been chatting with seemed like it was him other times it didn't!! that was amazingly frustrating , until i kept nagging the girl to tell me who it was , i kept guessing until i got it right, I must say that made me very happy , the above situation took over 9 months , 4 of which i was searching to see who is the secret admirer , it was a really tough time. Any who , after I knew it was him I was very happy , he had told her that he wanted to marry me , but he didn't want me to know about what he told her because it was too early , he wasn't financially prepared for marriage , during our work meetings we used to talk sometimes, but I am a very VERY shy person ,so i kept avoiding eye contact with him in addition to my conservative background that forbids me of going deeper in a relationship so mostly we spoke online , meanwhile another girl , that used to attend meetings with us started to move in on him , she is the cheap kind of girls , she throws herself on guys , tries to flirt with all guys , he was being mean to her on my account at first , until , another guy confessed that he liked me and that he wanted to marry me too , so i told the secret admirers sister in order for him to know and maybe come forward about how he feels about me , (he doesn't know that I know who he is ) , so secret admirer notices that the other guy has a lot more to show for marriage wise , he didn't instead when he knew about the other guy he started to drift away further and further. and now we hardly speak I never knew i can hate someone so much, he also hangs out A LOT with the cheap girl , and when they met up in university when they used to see me when they are together they used to hide away from me , which was very obvious because both of them st aired at me , I m starting to think Am a rebound girl , or that he was just messing around with me.
conclusion , i lost both guys , and I don't know if secret admirer likes me or not, or if he is with cheap girl now! =( .
Does anyone have an analysis to the whole thing that may put my mind to ease?!?!
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