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Low sex drive/labido in men

By Anonymous October 17, 2011 - 6:28am
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I've been with my partner for about 10 months now. It's been a serious relationship for the last four-ish months and we moved in together about a month and a half ago.
Quite literally since we moved in together we have not had sex. Nothing. He says that he still feels the same way about me, but just does not feel good in himself. I'm pretty certain that he is depressed, and has been for years, could that have such an effect? I just don't understand it, because to me, sex makes a person feel good...

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Hi Anon,

Welcome to EmpowHER and thanks for your question. I can imagine after almost a year in a relationship and all the sudden your boyfriend having these changes can be very difficult to deal with. But there might be many reasons that might be affecting your boyfriend and keeping from not wanting to have sex.

Physical causes

Alcoholism – quite common.
Abuse of drugs such as cocaine.
Obesity – quite common; slimming down will often help.
Anaemia - unusual, unless the man has been bleeding for any reason.
Hyperprolactinaemia – a rare disorder where the pituitary gland produces too much of the hormone prolactin.
Prescribed drugs – particularly Proscar (finasteride), a tablet used for prostate problems.
Low testosterone level
And depression can also affect your sex life.

That's why it is important for him to see a doctor first and check his testosterone levels.

Best of lucks,

October 17, 2011 - 8:03am
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