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My boyfriend does not want to have sex with me!

By March 12, 2015 - 5:29am
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We've been dating for 1 year and a half but we've been living together for 7 months. At the beginning we used to have sex alot which was normal, but 3 months from now he is just not wanting to have sex as much as i do which is really akward having to beg him for sex. everytime we have sex is because of me and not him, and sometimes when i ask for it he gets mad at me and tells me that i'm acting like a hoe because thats all i think off, and sometimes i do feel like that because he doesn't want to have sex but i do and makes me think that actually i am acting like one which hurts me. So i don't really ask him whats the problem because he gives me the same answer that i only think of sex . Sometimes i do understand him because he works on a fabric 12 hours a day which he obvioussly gets tired and i dont want to ask for sex knowing thaf he gets really tired. What can i do? How can i stop myself from being horny?

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Hello Someone,

Welcome to EmpowHER and thank you for reaching out to our community for advice.

Sometimes, when a couple either move in to live together or get married, the desire to have sex frequently diminishes. Being together all the time, fatigue from working long hours, and sharing or not sharing household chores and expenses can affect libido.

Set realistic goals. How often do you initiate sex? Is it on your boyfriend's days off or shortly after he completes a 12 hour shift?

Do you and your boyfriend have other interests and activities that you share?

Just maybe, if you took a step back and didn't initiate sex or pressure him to have sex, he might be curious enough to want to take the lead. Make him want you like he did before.


March 12, 2015 - 8:32am
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