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My boyfriend doesn't have much of a sex drive anymore..

By Anonymous June 27, 2011 - 12:58pm
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Ok so let me set the scene, my boyfriend is 21 I'm 18 about to be 19. We are about to have our one month anniversary tomorrow, BUT we were I guess you could say "sexual partners" for 2 years before we started dating. The sex is amazing and he is completely capable of getting an erection. I have a VERY high sex drive, we used to have sex a lot, we are both very attractive. But lately he hasn't been wanting to have sex as much we used to have sex almost everyday, now I'm lucky if we have sex 3 times a week. I've talked to him and he has assured me that it's him and not me. He practically lives at my house and we sleep I'm the same bed almost everynight. Other than that we have an amazing relationship. Idk what to do help.

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Hi Anonymous,

Thank you for your question and welcome to EmpowHer. There are many reasons why men or women may lose interest in sex. First, is they are filling their sexual needs elsewhere (yes, this is possible). Stress can be a common killer of the libido as well. Depression can certainly cause the loss of sexual appetite as well as questionable sexual orientation (probably not your case). As you can see, there can many possibilities for his withdrawal from sexual needs.

Honestly, having sex three times a week is a high sex drive. Most couples in relationship over 2 years, have sex maybe once a month. Count your blessings. If you are concerned about your relationship, be sure to talk to him, open up communication since he is the one that holds the ultimate answer to the changes in your sexual relationship with him.

Good luck and keep us posted.


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