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My boyfriend doesnt have sex with me anymore

By Anonymous December 21, 2010 - 8:05am
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I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years. I’m 25 and he’s 22. We slowly stopped having sex. I don’t get what the problem is. I have tried everything. I even suggested we get counseling. I don’t want to break up but I want to be loved and to have him want to have sex with me not to just do it to shut me up. I have had many talks with him about it and it’s always the same. Nothing’s wrong and we will try to have more sex. But it shouldn’t be this hard. I feel that he has lost interest in me and he’s to nice to break it off and is waiting for me to do it. I even thought our age difference is an issue. But lots of people range in age and it shouldn’t matter. He even says he doesn’t care about our age difference. I don’t have anyone to talk about it with and its tearing me up. I cry all the time about it because I don’t get what I did wrong. I really thought he loved me and wanted to be with me. Having sex was so good in the beginning and I’m fine having it once a week but not at all in a month. It started happening 7 months ago. We just slowly stopped. We would have sex once a month and last month we didn’t at all. We don’t even touch each other like we used to. He never touches because he just goes straight for it like he wants to get done with doing it already. I don’t know what to do. Because he acts like he loves me. He just bought a diamond necklace for my birthday. He hugs me or kisses me and likes to cuddle. I don’t think he’s cheating on me and he has no reason to. I know he masturbates in the shower but I don’t get why he’s not into me anymore. It does feel like he hides his feeling and when I ask him what’s wrong it seems like he’s not telling the whole truth. I don’t want to break up but I need that bond and closeness with my partner. We are not an old married couple and I don’t want to have this kind of problem this early in our relationship. He should still want to have sex. He’s still young. I need help. I don’t understand what is happening. I don’t know who to talk to because this is personal and embarrassing that I can’t get my own boyfriend to become intimate with me.

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Anon - It may help to know that you're not alone, and this situation is far more common than one would believe in watching how the various media portray relationships. The following articles were written to help women in your situation. Good luck to you!



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