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my boyfriend doesn't like sex! HELP!

By November 24, 2010 - 8:30pm
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my boyfriend doesn't like sex. we have been together for 2 years. the first month we were together i found out he was faking orgasms. he doesn't cum for at least 2 hours or he doesn't cum at all. ive tried talking to him about it which naturally has scared him and so he REALLY doesn't like having sex at ALL anymore. i want to be sexual with him. its important for me and it doesnt seem to be an issue for him. i need to know what to do!!!!!!! HELP

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science nerd,
here are the comments to your other duplicate question (so that you may keep track of different comments): http://www.empowher.com/community/ask/my-boyfriend-doesnt-sex-help.

November 25, 2010 - 3:00pm

Hi Science Nerd,
Thank you for your question and for finding EmpowHER. I'm sorry you have been dealing with this sexual incompatibility issue for so long. And why have you? You're dating. Mind you, I'm not a doctor or therapist. Im a firm believer that your teen and 20s (dating) years is a time to "try on" different men and figure out what's important to you, and what you want in a life partner. It's also the time to figure out what you want from life--career, lifestyle, etc. Sounds like for whatever reason, things aren't completely gelling with this man. Are you two sexual in other ways? Does he like being sexual at all? How is the rest of your relationship? Realize that you can't change him.
Sexual incompatibility (especially in a dating situation) can be a deal breaker, so take some time to yourself and figure out how truly invested in this relationship you are. He may be a great friend, means a lot to you, and there's no reason why you can't remain close. You deserve to be completely comfortable and happy in your relationship. If sex is important to you, and you're not getting it from this guy, you need to decide for yourself if it's time to move on.
You may want to check out EmpowHER's Sex & Relationship articles, other ASK questions like yours, or find an EmpowHER Group to connect with women in similar situations to your own.
Good luck and let us know if you need additional support.

November 25, 2010 - 8:10am

also.... to give you a clear idea of how little he likes sex.... im not exaggerating when i say that we have had sex 10 times in the last 2 years. he has cum 3 out of the 10 times.

November 24, 2010 - 8:35pm
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