Ok this is a long long story..
I was molested as a child multiple times by someone close to me.
When I met my boyfriend I confided in him about it and it upset him greatly.
Well at first we didnt do anything sexual at all, but eventually it happened.
Recently we have had sex every day. But this week my boyfriend started a new job and when he got home he would call and he said that I didnt act happy when he called. Like I didnt really want to talk to him. But I do. So last night we were talking and he said that he thinks we should not do anything sexual. He started remembering what I told him about my past. He tried to call off sex before and neither one of us was strong enough to resist each other. So when he called it off last night I tried to tell him we didnt need to and that I dont ever think of my past anymore. That he makes me so happy that I forget that all that bad stuff ever happened. And he still didnt want to have sex with me ever again, I got mad because he wouldnt open up to me about it he just said "no more sex". And when I got mad he thought that I would fight for sex more than I do for our relationship. And that isnt true, I just dont want to say we will never have sex again because its more than just physical to me, and he said that he still wants to have sex with me but he will not do it, that when we want it we will have to "pleasure ourselves" and just think about the other one. And I told him if that was the case I dont want to do it because I only want it with him. I tried to convince him that we still could, I just hate when he says we cant do it but wont tell me why. We have been together for over a year and I dont understand why he cant tell me and why he doesnt want to have sex with me, I know he loves me and we want to get married and have a family, He said that he will only have sex with me when we start our family and just enough to get pregnant... The more he says we cant the more I want to and he feels like I am pressuring him into it. I just dont know what to do. I told him I will be sweeter and everything and happier when he comes home from work like I used to be in the beginning. And then I asked if he will have sex with me when we work on our relationship and he says that hes not going to talk anymore because thats all I am worried about. Which isnt true I just want things back to normal is all. UGH I dont know what to do. I just need some advice...
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