me and my boyfriend have been dating for 9 months. at first, things were perfect. we had sex 2-4 times/week. that's great for me. over the last few months, it's declined to about twice/month. i love my boyfriend so much, and i know that he loves me just the same. i've talked to him about it. he said that he thinks of sex as something very special(which, it is), and that he doesn't want it to just become a passtime, by f***ing all the time. he says that he respects me too much to just f***.
i don't want to just do that though. i want to do what we've been doing. why can't every time be special? and there are sometimes, like in the morning, when i just want a quickie. but if i touch him, he will laugh and push my hands away, like "what are you doing?". he's a wonderful man and makes me so happy. i don't get why he doesn't want me, like i want him. he says that he finds me incredibly attractive but he never acts on it. i'm always the one initiating. i don't want to hurt his feelings or make him think he's inadequate. we have amazing sex, when we do. i just want to do it more, and i want for him to want to. i don't want him to feel like he HAS to.
i just feel really unwanted, eventhough i know that isn't true. it's still not a nice feeling. i don't really know what else to do?
thanks for any feedback :)
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