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My boyfriend doesn't want sex anymore...

By Anonymous July 6, 2012 - 1:11pm
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I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 3 months. We are great together! We have so much fun together, we cuddle, we kiss, we hold hands (just as much as we did when we first got together) everything is perfect. Except, over the past few weeks he doesn't seem to want sex as much anymore. We have only just come back off holiday about a 2 months ago, where we tried new things (sexually) while we were over there and really expressed ourselves and what we want in the bedroom. It was amazing. We were on holiday for 2 weeks and would have sex every day! But as soon as we came back home we didn't have sex for about two weeks, which is really unusual because we would have sex at least once everytime we see each other. Now its once every other week if that!

I'm aware, sex isn't everything, but I love the closeness and the attention.
He tells me, he wants me to be really forward with him. So the other day, I was very forward and he got really angry with me about it and started an argument. Then we had a serious talk, I would say things like 'whats wrong with me?' 'Am I that unattractive?' He did end up saying, he prefers watching porn than having sex with me.
Also, mentioned he had sex with his ex girlfriend loads of times 5 days a week, constantly.. But he wont have sex with me. Which was really nice of him to say that!
I was in tears. I don't understand what is going on? I try everything with him. I dress up sexually how he wants me to, I do things that most girls won't do, I'm really adventurous with him. He says he does find me sexually attractive, and he loves me. I know he finds me sexually attractive, I can just tell.. So whats the problem? I need help :( This is seriously getting me so down, I can't even find words to describe how this is making me feel. I feel so ugly.
We only see each other about twice a week, three times at the most! So its not like we see too much of each other. And nothing has changed, well if anything, our relationship has improved, we have become closer! So what am I doing wrong? what should I do?
Please help me :(

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Hello diamondeyes,
Do not blame yourself. You are both young.
Though this may not be what you want to hear, your relationship may have gone as long as it could and now it is over.
Your boyfriend has been painfully honest with you that he prefers watching porn rather than being intimate with you.

It is time to move on and find the right young man who will love you and love being with you. You deserve to be loved.


July 6, 2012 - 4:41pm

I should add, we are both only 20. So this shouldn't be happening :(

July 6, 2012 - 1:14pm
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