My boyfriend never wants to have sex with me. It's killing me.

A lot of ladies are saying they feel unattractive etc, but when you tell a man that you feel unattractive and he really no longer is attracted to you then he will feel guilty because you have made a point of feeling unattractive and the problem is not resolved but dragged on. The point I'm making is a lot of the time it is the women making a man stay in a relationship he is not happy with and then complaining because they are not getting sex. I would suggest that all ladies actually say to there men that they want a temporary split if he want you back after then maybe the problem is something different and if he does not then you know he never wanted to be with you. alternatively you may find someone else in the split up who loves you and makes love regularly

Ill be honest he may not want to be with you. If he is a nice man he may just be with you because he know you love him deeply and doesn't want to let you down especially if other parts of your life are fine and you get along on a friend level. I am a man and have been through this but struggled to tell the lady as i knew she loved me deeply. I did try to split up once but when i saw the upset on her face I couldn't split with her. I split eventually but it was hard and took a lot of effort because the lady had done nothing wrong but i was no longer physically attracted to her. I know you should not base a relationship on looks but if you've lost the spark i'm afraid you cant get it back.

I am so sorry you ladies are going through this pain too. I cry myself to sleep many nights and he knows it, but never comforts me. My man barely kisses me. He holds my hand and occasionally holds me at night, but he rarely initiates sex and on the rare occasion he does...it feels like pity sex because I have complained about lack of intimacy. He loves me, but does not make me feel desired in any way whatsoever. He uses the excuse that I never initiate sex so I am to blame....but when your man wont kiss you or even touch you intimately, you lose your confidence in initiating sex...I have never been with a man who didn't make me feel desired or want sex before this relationship. We have been though a lot... he cheated when out of town both physically and sexting and I read all the messages. He was so turned on by these other women....but he is not turned on by me at all and that hurts. Granted he was high when he cheated and sober now...but it still hurts and has me sinking into a deep depression. I love him...but I am 37 and still have a sex drive. I don't want to spend the last few years of my youth feeling so undesired. It hurts.

Omg please I HAVE BEEN IN THE SAME SITUATION ! I just turned 23 my boyfriend is 25 and we have been together for about five years !! Five freaking years, almost six now. The first few months we had sex all the time then I started always having to initiate until all the sudden it just stopped cold turkey. We literally did have sex for an entire year, now it's been almost 6 months maybe more I don't even bother keeping count. We have sex maybe twice or three times a year. It makes me feel horrible, I've never dealt with this before and I'm so young I didn't ever in my wildest dreams think this would happen especially at my age. I can't imagine what our sex life we be like at 50 .. Probably completely non existent. I cry myself to sleep too often, I get denied too often I have talked to him about a thousand times, it actually the only thing we argue about. He says the same crap, why don't I try to start it (I thought I was) or he says I want to have sex too late at night. It's absurd. I even told him I was going to leave that I can't do this anymore and he said he would try .. Still nothing not even on my birthday. We went on a cruise for his bday to the Bahamas that I planned and nope no sex there either. We stayed at an amazing resort in boca for over a week, nothing. I even tried to get him in the shower with me .. Nothing. I totally initiated when we were at the pool alone at night ... Nothing he practically said NO to my face. I know he's not cheating which almost makes this worse. I feel totally unwanted , ugly , like there's something wrong with me. I have tried the sexy lingerie, making a romantic dinner with candles, getting all dressed up, fav perfume, great makeup everything. For his bday I gave him special made cards that basically said "free blowjobs whenever u want just use this card" - it has been 2 years and he has not used it once ! Can someone tell me what to do :( I'm desperate and depressed over this. Oh and remember I'm freaking 23! This body and sex drove will NOT last forever. We started dating when I was 17.