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my boyfriend pretends to sleep and masturates when I sleep

By Anonymous May 30, 2015 - 12:36pm
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I cant stop thinking about ive never had this happen before I caught my boyfriend masturating one night 4am cause the bed was shaking I let it go than it happened again couple nights later ive never dated a guy who would do that its disgusting n makes me feel not good enough for him so I told him go bathroom or anywhere as long not next to me he flat out lied and said I dont do that I dont need to do it but same time hes always got one hand near his dick even while driving its driving me crazy yea we have sex not everyday tho he knows when ever anytime he can have it so why masturbate even when im awake late at night he pretends to sleep while the best shakes we been datin just under 3 months and thinking if I can put up with this someone plz help im goin crazy over it I don't even wanna sleep till he does or go for a shower cause I think this is gonna happen

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Hello and thank you for sharing your question.  I'm so sorry to hear about your situation.

It is important to feel wanted in your relationships.  This behavior is most likely normal for him and that is why he never considered your feelings in the matter.

I suggest that you let him know exactly how this makes you feel.  During these conversations, it is best to use "I" statements instead of "you" statements.  For example, "I feel unwanted when you do..." instead "You make me feel unwanted."

The first sentence expressed a need, while the second puts him in a corner in which he must defend himself.  

If you want to continue your relationship with him, open communication about your needs, and also things that upset you, is the first place to start.


May 30, 2015 - 11:55pm
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