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my boyfriend says he's stressed and doesn't want sex anymore

By Anonymous March 14, 2011 - 7:30am
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we've been together for a year and started living together almost straight away as we had know each for years,in the beginning we couldn't keep our hands off each other, but lately he says he's stressed all the time and doesn't feel like having sex, in fact we haven't had sex for 6 months. he's been complaining of an ache in his abdomen area for about a month which makes him feel strange, been to doctors and couldn't find anything wrong in a urine test said it was stress related. I ve tried to be patient and help him all i can but this is really hurting me, keep thinking it's my fault!! It's not just the fact that we don't have sex but we never seem to cuddle or kiss anymore either it's like he's compleatly pushing me away. I ve tried weekends away which we both seemed to enjoy but still nothing happens, on one weekend away he did start holding my hand and did kiss me but when we got to the hotel he told me to leave him alone. I work nights through the week and used to look forward to the weekends now i've started dreading them as i know i'll end up getting upset every night. He says he cares about me and loves me, so why is he hurting me so much, in August the doctor gave him viagra but he hasn't even mentioned taking them, it's like he's not even willing to try anything which hurts me even more. I really love him and want a proper relationship and want to feel close to him, we have days out and get on brilliantly, i understand that he gets stressed with his work but surely if he really loved me he would have wanted sex at least once or twice in the last 6 months ???

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