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My boyfriend secretly masturbates right after we have sex.EVERYTIME!

By August 15, 2011 - 8:49pm
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Me & my guy have been together for 3yrs.Our sex life is SUPER(we both agree). I enjoy pleasing him in EVERY WAY,leaving nothing out.As of a year ago i found out (by mistake because he didnt clear the history) & discovered that he not only does it ALOT,he also pays for an account that he subscribes to. Im all for masterbation as much as he wants but it just confuses me to know how much he does it(up to 3x a day some days).Even more to know that our sex life is pretty awesome,he always makes sure i know he thinks im sexy & wants me all the time.But i must say that im always left so confused/weird, & feeling inadequate to know that hes doing it not even 5mins after we finish a 10min to 2hr session(while im in the shower afterwards).He does it REALLY fast too,which is also weird because he ejaculates every time we have sex so he never fakes it!! I asked him about it once or twice & he swore that he doesn't even think about masturbating unless we've been busy & we jus arnt in the mood for love making. The lies about it to me means hes ashamed of it & they also just adds fuel to the flame that i secretly have about it.I never mentioned it again because the last thing i need is for him to feel ashamed or attacked by something so common.BUT TO ME ITS NOT COMMON ANYMORE BECAUSE HE DOES IT SOOOOO MUCH!So my question is, is there something medically wrong with him or am i really not enough & he just loves me too much to say so? Im afraid that it COULD actually turn into him cheating on me with another woman all in the name of "fantasy chasing". Please help me feel better about all this so that i can stop beating myself up while giving him a silent side eye filled with resentment. thanx.

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It was kinda helpful Mena, thank you so much for the feed back. Im still a little curious though as to what it REALLY is. I almost wish there was some type of medical condition to blame it on rather than the idea of it being a "cuz i feel like it" kinda thing. Im also hoping youre right about it not turning into something more because im going off the fact that most addictions always escalate which was why I kinda worry about it someday end up moving outside of our relationship. thanx again for the feedback!

August 17, 2011 - 3:18pm

to me it just looks like as if he has a real high sexual drive and is one of those multiple orgasm men. i mean you DO have a 2h session but for him it's just ONE orgasm. yes he does it more then an average man would do, but from what i read it doesn't stop him from having a great sexual life with you. He doesn't seem to be a guy who masturbates all the time and REJECTS you in the meantime, which would be a real issue.
as far as cheating is concerned - i don't think it's so highly likely to happen. masturbation is something you do with your own self and does not involve other people physically - if this is what he needs (and obviously he does need this individual and solitary experience) then don't worry about him wanting to draw other people in it. you say he's caring and makes sure you feel sexy and desired by him - which means he wants you.
if masturbation wasn't judges as dirty or wrong or whatever by the society, it wouldn't make any difference to you if it's too much, too less or too wrong or whatever, as long as he desires you and has a SUPER sex life with you.
again as i said, since you do have an astonishing sex with him and he doesn't reject you i wouldn't judge him abnormal. he just has a real high drive and maybe the orgasms he has with you just "load" him more, so he needs to ejaculate after you had sex again.

hope this was helpful!


August 16, 2011 - 2:30am
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