My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for six months but have been official for about two. Through out the six months, as he lives away we've seen each other every weekend. Either him coming down to see me or me going to see him. Recently after a large argument about feeding my baby son (yes I am a single mum) he became very standoffish. We saw each other at the weekend and all seemed fine, however he has been reducing communication and I began to worry.
He then phoned to ask if we could go for lunch, and alarm bells began to ring, when I asked him what was wrong he said that things had become too serious too quickly. That he feels bad if he doesn't phone/text me and that we see each other every weekend and "he didn't know what was going on in his head". He acknowledged that it wasn't just me doing the running, he's been sporadically coming down to see me and instigating communication.
Next week he's coming down next week so we can have a chat. Either we break up or find a compromise as to how to make our relationship less serious. I don't want to break up with him as I really care about him, but I don't want to be in a relationship where we talk once a week and see each other once a month.
We were so happy until recently. I just don't know where to go from here. I'm trying to be proactive (like coming on here for advice) rather than breaking down and crying assigning our relationship to dust. I know as a single mum I've got a lot more baggage, but he's known me for a while as we have many mutual friends and he knew what he was getting into. How do I cool things down, with out breaking things off?
For your info, I'm 21 student and he's a 25 professional. Help!
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