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my boyfriend wont have sex with me

By Anonymous March 28, 2011 - 5:44am
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i have been with my boyfriend
for 8 months. we used to have
sex ALOT. hes only 22 he should be
in his PRIME. and i LOVE sex. ive offered
to use EVERY birth control POSSIBLE
and have talked to him about my "needs".
on the RARE occasion we DO have sex he wont
wear a condom. he says he doesnt
want to have sex with me because
he doesnt want me to get pregnant.
im not worried about him cheating
because he lives with me and

works with my dad.
i WANT to have sex. im only 20. i have
forever to be old and not so cute and perky
as i am now. im so confused. he wont
compromise to fufill my needs
is it time i look for a new man
i love him with all my heart
but i feel like their might be a bigger motive
behind him not having sex with me
maybe hes not sexually attracted to me?
hed never admit it.... help?

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Hi Anonymous,
Thank you for your question and for finding EmpowHER. The surest way to know what is going on is to ask your boyfriend what is going on. Tell him what you are thinking, and see what he says. If he doesn't talk openly with you about this, then you can decide what your next step is. We can't tell you if it's time to move on. That's for you to decide what's best for you. But if you and your boyfriend are not on the same page with the topic of sex at this point in your lives, you may need to think long and hard about what your expectations are for this relationship, and what you can live with. If he wants to wait until marriage, that is valid and his right. But you also deserve to be happy and live by what is right for you.
If you need to talk it through more, we're here. There are many women who have dealt with similar circumstances, so please know you are not alone in the least bit:

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