My boyfriend wont have sex with me anymore

Hello, I am also having a similar problem. My boyfriend (of a year and a half) and I have sex occasionally (once weekly on average, sometimes less) but I either have to ask or tell him that I want it for it to happen. I have brought up several times, at least four or five, that I feel unattractive when he will not come on to me but to no avail- he says he will try, but he doesn't try. I just wait, get nothing, then cry myself to sleep often now because no matter how much I put out signals, I can not get him to initiate. I am sick of asking and I can't keep telling him how upset I am because it gets me nowhere and makes me more upset when we argue. He says its just because he is afraid that he will be rejected, but I do not understand how he can feel this way when I clearly want to have sex with him and often. I don't know what else to do other than wait for him to want me enough to come onto me himself. Has anyone else ever had this problem?

I understand how this whole thing is making you feel. I'm experiencing the same thing too. My boyfriend is 22 and I'm 24, we've been together for about 2 years now and it's been 3 months since we had sex and it's depressing. Initially the sex was amazing and frequent, like 3-5 times a week and over the months it decreased to once a week and then once a forth night and then once in 2 months and now it has been 3 months. We didn't start off long distance but its been long distant the past one year since I'm furthering my studies. Initially we did try phone sex but not so often. Now even when I try and initiate phone sex, he turns me down claiming to be tired etc. when I go back, the most we do is make out, and that's it. After roughly about 3 months, I got a fingering session for my birthday. That's it. I'm a very sexual person and I need constant sex and physical connection it he doesn't want to understand this. I've asked him if he doesn't find me appealing anymore or if he is no longer attracted to me, his answer was always no and that I'm just overthinking and that he's tired. I've even confronted him on whether or not he's getting it elsewhere, and the answer is still no ( I've done my spying work and I think there's no cheating involve or at least I hope so :/ ). I don't know what else to do, I'm even starting to believe maybe I'm the problem. Maybe I'm getting unattractive.

Hey, I am a new mom of a beautiful 4 month old baby girl. Me and my boyfriend have been together 4 years now. We haven't had sex in exactly one year. My daughter was conceived last April and all sexual activity stop. He said he was afraid of hurting the baby. I assured him I wouldn't hurt her but I respected his feelings. Since my daughter's birth we still haven't had sex. He said he was worried about getting me pregnant. Well I am on the pill and I told him we don't have anything to worry about. I have tired talking to him about this and even making the first move. I don't know what else to do. Help!

Hi,
Im having the same problem as well. We are young, but have been together since middleschool. We have been living together for 8 years. We have an almost 3 year old daughter and i am pregnant with baby number 2. We still have sex, but it's minimal. It's hard for me because my husband works away from home. He is away for work Monday-Friday and comes home Friday afternoon and is home for the weekend. So, on top of barely having sex, he also never sees me. I offer him oral sex or freebies, which means no work for him and he still turns them down. He doesnt often even get turned on unless i go near his butt. That seems to be when he's most turned on. Even if he is hard, for whatever reason, he still wont have sex with me? I have thought for years that he has been interested in men and may be having sex with the guy he's been working with for years, who has also off and on been one of his better friends, but they have a weird relationship. For the record he used to be interested in guys when we were younger and in high school, he has had sex with men before. He claims however that he isn't at all interested in men now and hasn't had sex with a man since we have been together. He tells me that he loves me and is very affectionate (holds me at night....etc). I would just like a personal opinion. We have had sex once this week.

Hi there, well i too am having the same problem with my boyfriend. I had a miscarriage 6 weeks ago and he had stopped having Sex with me once we found out. He didn't want to "hurt the baby" however now that I'm not pregnant he still won't touch me. I finally grilled him to answering why not and he replied "because I just don't want to" I had no response to that. I can't force him to do something he doesn't want to do. I then told him "well what kind of relationship are we if we don't have sex" he replied "we are good pals" I got mad and said "good pals? Well if you don't want to be with me anymore then just tell me" he proceeds to call me crazy and that I should just shut up. I know hes addicted to porn he watches it everyday at least 2 a day. I Voice how bad he makes me feel and does nothing to make me feel better, he does however say he loves me and misses me and spends time with me. Just missing the sex.

My Boyfriend & I Sex Life Has been Amazing. We use to have sex almost everyday. We have been together 8 yrs recently he stated he hasn't had the urge to touch me. He Also has been Watching porn on top of all that he would rather get oral or jerk off on my body then have sex with me.. I need to be pleased just as much as he does..

I wrote in here like 5 months ago and I'm still having issues with him. I've talked to him many times about this and all I got from him after so much nagging is that he admitted to have an issue with porn. He is not porn addicted, he probably watches porn once or twice a week, however he waits until I leave for work and then he just doesn't want to do anything with me, and if we do, he can't finish or orgasm. There are weeks were he stops watching porn, but now there is a plot twist: he pleasures himself with masturbation toys. In the earlier months of our 10 month relationship, I didn't mind to add sex toys for both of us on our sex routine, I still don't mind.... but I realize now that all he needs to pleasure himself is just sex toys and porn, not me.
What I find very strange is that he loves to touch me and he gets hard all the time, he has also told me he's very sexually attracted to me, however he won't do anything, he just touches me and then goes to do something else.
Three days ago he told me he was sorry he hasn't been touching me because he's worried about work, he's currently looking for a stable job and he's stressed about it. I understand it, but I'm also aware that if it's not stress, then it's tiredness or something else, just excuses all the time.
I love him too much that I even put in my mind to not get horny when he touches me, I still desire sex a lot, but when we do it, I have a hard time getting turned on, wet and even have a hard time coming. It's taken a huge psychological toll on me.