My boyfriend wont have sex with me anymore

It's comforting to know I'm not alone. I've been with my partner for 5 years and we have an almost 2 year old son. In the beginning our sex life was great but for the last 3 years it's completely died off. He rejects me all the time, flat out refuses to touch me and I'm forbidden to touch him. To make matters worse the only time we have had sex in the last year has been when I've been asleep and I've woken up to him touching me or already having sex with me.. like many off you commenting when we do have sex there is no foreplay, no kissing or intimacy of any kind, he literally does what he needs to do (which doesn't take all that long) then turns over and goes back to sleep. I've cried myself to sleep many a night over this and I'm so depressed because of it. I don't know what to do anymore. He says it's nothing personal to me he just doesn't want sex but he watches porn regularly and pleasures himself. He even waits for me to get up with our son in the morning to masturbate without me knowing. Any advice would be greatly appreciated as I feel I have exhausted every option. I love him and don't want to leave, I don't want another man and I don't think I'd be confident enough to have another sexual relationship with anyone else now. I just feel so defeated.

My boyfriend of almost 2 years rarely wants to have sex with me. He is 24 and I am 19 and i go to uni which is about 2 hours from him. He comes up every weekend to see me, but it is only when he is drunk that he wants to have sex with me and then again it's always me initiating it. This has been like this for months and months. When we have sex it is good, but lasts like a minute. I can get so upset at times when I'm always initiating and when he turns me down, it makes me feel so self - conscious. When I ask him why he won't sleep with me he just says he's tired and not to take it personally. How can you not take that personally?

I am so glad I'm not the only one going through this! My boyfriend (25) and I (21) have been together for 3 years and just like all of you have mentioned when we first got together everything was great. We had sex 2 or 3 times a day. Then all the sudden everything changed when I got pregnant with our son. He is 1 1/2 now and my boyfriend stopped having sex with me when I was 6 months pregnant. We have maybe had sex 2 or 3 time since our son has been born. And its not like me getting pregnant was a shock to him because we had been trying for a while to have a baby. And now it's like he doesn't find me attractive at all anymore I've tried everything... I've lost weight for him. Then he tells me I'm to skinny now.so I started to gain my weight back. Nothing I seem to do ever satisfies him. He tells me he lo

I'm so happy to find this article! I'm experiencing the exact same. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half, we live together and used to have sex regularly, initiated by both of us. Gradually it dropped off and I've worked out that for over half of our relationship he has not been interested in sex. We used to live far apart and he would regularly message me about how much he misses me, having sex and would love to give me oral sex. Now we are together and it turns out it was all just words. I have brought it up several times; asking what has changed, what I can do etc and have explained what a negative impact the lack of intimacy in our relationship has on me. He can see that I'm unhappy but is unwilling to do anything about it. I have to ask him for a kiss if I want more than a peck and remind him that he promised to be more passionate. It all comes to nothing, nothing changes. Like most women here, I love him and really don't want this to cause the end of our relationship but I cannot keep going on without intimacy and the knowledge that he is unwilling to acknowledge or work on the problem. I too have thought about looking elsewhere, but it's him I want, not just sex.

It's reassuring that I'm not the only going through this. I have been with my boyfriend, 23, for over two years, but we have known each other since we were 10 years old. We were friends until one day, one thing led to another. We had sex 2-3 times a day, it a was amazing and never felt a greater connection until November 2nd of 2015, two months into the relationship, I found out I was pregnant. That's when everything changed. He stopped having sex with me and only did it when it seemed convient for him. He stopped cuddling me, holding my hand, calling me pet names like babe, beautiful etc. I gave birth to our beautiful baby boy in July hoping that after he was born, things would change. I was wrong. He's definitely not the same person that I knew way before I got pregnant. I am also 23 and am sexually active. I'm so tired of being rejected so I just stopped trying all together. I'm tired of using "toys." I use them when he's away and at every chance I get because I don't want him know I'm doing it and It's just not the same. I want the connection with him and I want to feel wanted. It's been 3 month since we last had sex and I just don't know what to do. It's bringing me into a depression.