My boyfriend wont have sex with me anymore

My boyfriend of almost 5 years rarely wants to have sex with me anymore either. He is 21 and I am 20 and we go to colleges that are 3 and a half hours apart. Formerly, when we would see each other on the weekends we'd have sex serveral times, but for the past few months he has barely wanted to. The sex is great when we do have sex, however I get so upset and depressed sometimes because I am always initiating it, and most of the time I am turned down. Everytime I ask him why he just claims to be tired and tells me not to take it personally; however it is very hard to.

My boyfriend of 3+ years and I rarely have sex anymore, I try to initiate and am regularly rejected. This has been going on for approx 2 yrs. I used to have a healthy sex drive, however his neglect over this time has really affected my desire so that orgasming even on my own is difficult. But, this was brought about by a tragedy in his life (losing his mom). She got sick about 2.5 yrs ago, and he was caring for her until she passed early last year. I can totally empathize with his grief and have given him lots of space. I'm not sure what to do at this point - I love him but the lack of intimacy (even cuddling is rare) is having serious effects on my mental health. Does anyone have experience in dealing with grief and depression in their partner? He has not been proactive in healing his own state of mind and he is not very open with his feelings to me, although he does try sometimes. I want to help, he is such a caring man and I love him very much. Any advice is appreciated!

I wanna cry. I'm 21 my boyfriend is 25 and he just rejected me. He's been playing videogames for 3 hours and says he's too tired for sex... We live together, we have a 2 year contract on this apartment, and I seriously think I need to leave, but that would mean leaving him on the streets since I half of everything. I've asked what's wrong, he says he doesn't know, I've asked him if he has any desires, he says no, that he's not a sexual person.

I'm litterly crying reading all these comments it makes me that much more sad knowing there is so many females who are made to feel this way. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years (living together for 1.5 years) now, sex was never a huge part of our relationship cause he isn't an overly sexual person but when we first started dating it was at least once a week. Since then it can now be months inbetween when we have sex and when we do it's like he dosnt even want to he tell me to take my clothes off zero for play and if I'm lucky it'll last 5 mins. But then theres been a couple of times since we stopped having sex regularly where it's amazing and mind blowing so it's not like he dosnt know what he's doing its like he ligit jusy dosnt want to. I could go on for ever with all the excuses he has given me why he dosnt want to. But the worst part of it all is now he still regularly watches porn and gets him self off on the same night he turns me down for sex. Now for the cherry on the top he expects blow jobs on a RRGULAR basis but not once I will repeat NOT ONCE in has he ever gone down on me and I have full out begged. Everyother aspect of our relationship is amazing so I would feel stupid for leaving him cause of this but I feel like it's all me if he was with another girl this wouldn't be a problem for him.

It is comforting to see other women going through the same ordeal. My partner and I have been together a little over 2 years now and as everyone has stated, the beginning of our relationship was highly sexual; 3-4 times a week give or take.. Now as time has carried on, its more like once a month. I've never been overly sexually active but it has gotten to the point that i'm near begging him to touch me. I'm 22 and he's 20 by the way. As it has been saidby others, my boyfriend is a heavy gamer.. Once he comes home from work, he is instantly at his computer and i'm sitting like an idiot trying to get his attention. When i ask for sex he'd give me a "maybe later" or "Not today, tomorrow" but this has been going on for months.. I try to arouse him but he just ignores it or pushes my hand away from his penis. I feel so insecure and hurt.. I just hope all is not lost.. I can say he has a lot if stresses at the moment but if he has energy to play video games, he should have energy to have sex.. Is he no longer interested? Has our spark died out? Questions I can not answer nor can he give me a straight one.. I feel so freakin' lost at the moment.. I just hope we all will over come this.

I fully understand and appreciate that I am nowhere near alone. I have been with my boyfriend for three years, but have known him for 22 years. For the first year EVERYTHING was wonderful, than it went down hill faster than a crack whore hooker. It went from daily to every few months at first it was 2 months apart. Now it is five to six months apart. He can't keep it up. I feel like some how some way it's my fault. He gets so angry when I dare bring it up, but he gets over that when he understands I am blaming myself. He is very vocal about it being him, he thinks I am stunning, a great mother etc! But no real sexual contact, we hold hands, kiss, make out like teens but NO SEX, FORPLAY NOTHING!!!