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My boyfriend wont have sex with me because of a tramatic experience

By Anonymous June 28, 2014 - 3:34pm
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I have been with my boyfrien for 4 years,our sex life had always been very spicy until this last year. He stared rejecting me all the time, when i confronted him about this he tolm that it was because some years ago (before we met) he had been forced to have sex by a woman when he was unconcious, he was praticaly raped. He said that one time when i was initiating things he got a flashback. Long story short he said he needed some time without me initiating sex. So i stoped. now Im lucky if we do it once a month.

I love him, and im sure he loves me too, he has alway been so sweet. We can talk for hours and laugh for hours too. But im worried if this is going to be this way forever. I feel i cant pressure him to get psicological help, he avoids the subject and gets really unconfortable.

please help me, how can i turn this around?

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Hi Anon,

Welcome to EmpowHER. You might just need to let go of the relationship and continue just a friendship. So it won't continue affecting you nor him. You have to be honest with him and explain how you feel about this. He needs to get psychological help, especially if he was raped. It won't harm him, in the contrary it will help him with his future relationships and how to overcome those fears. Hope this helps?



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