My boyfriend is younger than me and I am afraid that people notice.

I had a young one for one night he chased me for a year he knew I was older.....then it was like he got scared of age difference told me We could never happen again....he was 38 and I'm 57 we had a great nite joking and laughing and the sex was great......Men my age too busy chasing the young....what does a woman do I'm tired of being alone......and it had be 5 yrs since I had sex since my husbands death so I was quite nervous . For the first time in 5 yrs I felt like a woman.

I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman being older than her husband. I am a 24 year old male who is married to a 37 year old woman (Nancy). I had always wanted an older woman even while I was dating girls who were my own age. I like very much being married to an older woman and Nancy has now grown to like it also. (After some reservations early in our relationship) We have learned not to listen to the remarks that others make about her being a cougar or me a cub. We used these terms jokingly as part of our banter when we are together or with friends. We're determined to resist any intimidation or humiliation that comes from others. We will continue to buck traditions in the future also as we will soon be the proud parents of a baby girl. Nancy is very sure that she wants to continue her career after maternity leave so she has requested that I surrender my job and be a stay at home dad to raise our child. Since she easily makes the larger portion of the household income, it is probably the most practical thing to do, so I've reluctantly agreed to do this. I can't wait to hear the comments from friends and neighbors about this. Long story short, I just want to encourage you to stay with it. It is worth it to let all these things make you stronger.

Hi everyone!

I am a few posts above (the long one), who broke up because of the 7 yrs difference. A few comments regarding the next ppl who posted. I honestly do not believe 2-3 yrs difference is an issue. I think beyond that may be-anything around 5 and over, although it never worked out w any guy that was younger than me.

Regarding the woman who was wondering why guys are attracted to older women, my ex told me most men like older women especially if they look young but are confident, dynamic and don't act like the ones their age.

To update you regarding my situation, it's been over a month now that we haven't managed to work things out w my ex, who is officially 30 now. I am pretty sure I made the right decision and he wouldn't be able at this time of his life to fit the bill. I have too much on my mind and I don't think he would be the one supporting what I need to do right now. Plus I have the time to work on things since he is not monopolizing my time, which young men tend to do. He was cruel to me after everything that happened, he treated me poorly and I think he couldn't put himself in my shoes for one minute. I think he was too immature at the end of the day. Also, I must say that older men are usually better in bed.

Maybe my comment helps you

Hi everyone.
I just broke up with my bf because of the age difference. Although I look younger than my age.. He's almost 30 and I am 37. We were together for 5 months - but literally together, sleeping over almost every day. He treated me probably the best than any other man I dated. He loved me a lot, or at least he thought so.. He took care of me, took me out whenever he could, exhibited his affection always and everywhere. Age was never an issue, although I spoke to him regarding the fact that I don't want to waste years getting to know someone etc.. I want kids soon. I feel I don't have too much time. He wasn't scared. He told me that he has no problem with that and everything was great, besides the fact that he was a little immature in insignificant things, but which man really isn't? Until one day a colleague of his was a little drunk and asked him if I was older than him and added "why don't you like younger girls, they are cuter"!!! And then something struck me! I will have to go through this all the time..
I told him that we are probably not good for each other due to that fact in brief. I hurt him.. He spoke with his friends and they actually agreed that I was probably right! So now he told me that I insisted so much on that, that I persuaded him..
I had my thoughts on the future before, regarding my looking older and him wanting a younger girl at some point, we are women and we know how men are.. although he never let me think like that, it was my own insecurity.
In the beginning, he was chasing me, then I missed him too much. The fact that he changed his mind, isn't a good sign. Either he listens to other ppl too much or he's just hurt. Not sure. Time will tell.
Either way I feel terrible. It cost me more than i thought. If this actually ends here I will make every effort to never be with a younger guy again, although I attract them. As someone wrote before, its hard enough to build a good relationship, putting a 7 yr difference in can't make it easier. I do know a married couple with the same difference though. They've been together for years and now she's expecting her first child at 42.
I feel so lost with everything and sad. So much prejudice. Why does the woman always have to be younger? When and why was this established? Back in the day when women were not educated and didn't make a living and their sole purpose was to reproduce, cook and clean, so they married very young to older men. How nice.. Things have changed. I feel I was a coward.
These are my thoughts. Good luck to any woman in the same situation. All the best