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Hi again Claudia!

I think Alison B has given you excellent information, advice and help! And like Alison, I'm really excited for you. Thank you too for answering my questions, it helps us know more about what type of information we can find.

One thing I did want to add is that although many women don't get pregnancy symptoms until their period is already late, I have heard lots of stories from friends of mine who said they just knew something was up because their normally sore PMS breasts were extra tender, or that they were extra tired, or that they were even starting to feel a bit queasy. one of my good girlfriends said she had a feeling she was pregnant or having the most nasty PMS ever when she couldn't even let the water touch her breasts when she was showering.

I know it's hard to wait and wonder if you are pregnant when you want it so badly. I really hope that you are! One more week to go, like Alison said! Please post again to let us know how you are doing and then too when you find out. We all have our fingers crossed for you. Big hugs, Michelle

May 14, 2009 - 9:30pm

You are welcome! :-) It is my pleasure, and I look forward to talking with you more about this...whatever your results.

Here is one more piece of information I just found from Conceive Magazine:
"Keep in mind, however, that even women with the most regular cycles can experience irregularity in ovulation. In fact, according to a study done at the National Institutes of Environmental Health Sciences, more than 70 percent of normal women were in their fertile window before day 10 or after day 17. “I tell my couples they should have intercourse twice a week, regardless of what time of the month it is,” says Serena H. Chen, M.D., division director for reproductive medicine at Saint Barnabus Medical Center, Livingston, New Jersey"

May 14, 2009 - 2:08pm

Congratulations--this is an exciting time for you! :-)

You can increase your chances of becoming pregnant by:
1. Understanding when you ovulate (basal temperature, ovulation predictor kit, tracking cervical mucus)
2. Having sex often (I've read every-other day) during your most fertile time
3. According to John R. Sussman, M.D., assistant clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the University of Connecticut School of Medicine in Conceive magazine, "Although experts used to think you could get pregnant if you had intercourse before, during, or right after ovulation, they now know that you’re actually most likely to get pregnant if you have sex in the five days before you ovulate, or on the day itself—but not after." (This is because sperm can live up to 72 hours, whereas the egg can live 12-24 hours...so the sperm is "waiting" for the egg).

Most women do not have symptoms of pregnancy until they are further along in the pregnancy, and it is difficult to distinguish sore breasts from pregnancy versus sore breasts from PMS. I am not sure what the "very heavy" feeling would be in your breasts, as that symptom does not occur until closer to the third trimester. I remember having symptoms when I was trying to get pregnant, too, and mine ended up being from PMS---I had never had those symptoms before, so I thought for sure I was pregnant, but I was taking birth control pills before, too, which decreased my PMS symptoms until I stopped taking them. It's hard to say what your symptoms are from, as every women is different! Other women do have symptoms very early in their pregnancy...some women even claim that they knew they were pregnant because they could feel the fertilized egg implant (there could be some implantation bleeding).

Home pregnancy tests won't detect the pregnancy hormone until you've missed a period, which is still another week away. An ultrasound at the doctor's office would also not pickup the heartbeat (right now, the embryo would be more a collection of cells, and the heart does not start beating until around 5th week, I believe).

Are you expecting your next period to be May 20th? Are you planning to take a home pregnancy test on/after that day? Let us know what the results are; it's just one more week to wait! Best wishes, and if this month did not work out for pregnancy, try, try again! :-)

May 14, 2009 - 1:42pm
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Thank you for all the information that you are providing me with and thank you for your comments.

May 14, 2009 - 2:05pm

Hi Claudia,

I just read both of your questions, and as Susan and Michelle said, it is possible that you could be pregnant, but most women do not have pregnancy symptoms until they miss their period (they are considered 4-5 weeks pregnant, although they may only be 2-3 weeks pregnant...depending on when they ovulated). Some women do have sore breasts and are tired very early in their pregnancy; it is different for every women, as some women notice small changes that other women may not. You are in a difficult time right now, because you don't know if you are having actual symptoms, or if you are hoping you are having pregnancy symptoms...right?!

If you had your LMP on 4/22, and unprotected sex on 5/1, then that was day 10 of your cycle. It is possible that you ovulated on/around that day. Sperm can live up to 3 days inside of your body, and most women's most fertile days are between day 11-21 of their cycle ("day 1" is the first day of your last period, which would be 4/22 for you). You can look at an ovulation calendar to see when you are most likely to ovulate each month, but other more reliable methods are to check your basal temperature and/or track your cervical fluid each month.

Did you know that you have a 20% chance each cycle to become pregnant? Are you interested in learning how to increase your chances of becoming pregnant? Let us know, and I can send you some information! How long have you been actively trying to become pregnant?

May 14, 2009 - 12:03pm
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Anonymous (reply to Alison Beaver)

Hi Allison,

Yes I am interested in learning how to increase my chances of becoming pregnant. Yes, I hope that I am pregnant but I don't think that I am confusing the symptoms of pregnancy. My breast are very sore and I have been very tired another thing my breast seem to be getting very heavy.

May 14, 2009 - 12:55pm
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Hello Vanguel,

Thank you so much for visiting the website and for asking your question. The symptoms that you are describing, at least from my own experience and from talking with a lot of other women, could be from either PMS or early pregnancy. Especially the sore breasts part.

I see from your earlier post today that your last period started on April 22, and that you had intercourse on May 1, so depending on how long your average cycle lasts you're not late yet.

If you don't mind giving us a bit more information about you, we can hopefully help you out even better. What is your age? Do you want to become pregnant or are you hoping that you are not right now? Do you normally have these symptoms you are describing during PMS? Are your cycles pretty regular?

If you could get back to us with the answers, that would be great. We're here for you and we're glad that you've joined the EmpowHer community. Best in health, Michelle

May 13, 2009 - 9:57pm
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Anonymous (reply to Michelle King Robson)

Hello Michelle,

I am 33 years old I am trying to get pregnant and hope that I am pregnant right now. I don't normally have these symptoms and if I do get any symptoms it would just be sore breast,& I would get them 1 week before I start my period. Yes my cycles are pretty regular.Like I said before my breast have been hurting since the middle of last week and I have been feeling tired around the same time.

Please let me know what you think.

Thank you,

May 14, 2009 - 6:31am
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