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my family friend shocked me by saying that she wants me to dis virgin her

By Anonymous January 12, 2012 - 4:58am
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What do you think might be wrong with her,4 her to say that?

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Hi Anonymous,

Have you had a relationship with her in the past? Or do you hardly know this girl? Are you the same age? 

Honestly, if you barely know her I would think that she may need to see a therapist. It's important to bring her back to reality so if she says something bizarre like "I want you to take my virginity" you can just reply, "We don't know each other well and it is not safe to have sex with someone who you hardly know." but leave it alone after. If you don't know this girl too well, you're not familiar with her mental history. If there is someone in the family that you have a very close relationship with then you can inquire but I wouldn't delve into this too much and just keep my distance.

I hope this helps,


January 12, 2012 - 8:49am
(reply to Rosa Cabrera RN)

Thank U̶̲̥̅̊ S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴͡ much Rosa.I really do appreciate your help,but the thing is that she has been staying @ ma place since 29th of december last year.I believe she will be going next 2moro..When I look @ her is aches ma brain because I do speak to her as ɑ̤̥̈̊ casual friend A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̲̅‎​ it sounded nasty when she came over to ma room 2 tell me that.ÇúÐ it be that she is pregnant A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̲̅‎​ she wants me to carry the blame?

January 12, 2012 - 11:32am
HERWriter Guide (reply to amaechi)

Hi amaechi

Funny, when I read your question and Rosa's reply, it also crossed my mind that she may in the early stages of pregnancy and is looking for a "father" to claim. Be very careful.

She may be testing you or exploring her own sexuality or unfortunately, may be pregnant via rape - we have no idea.

But stay far away and tell her to keep away from you and tell her to talk to a trusted female like her mother, grandmother, aunt etc. Also, try to get her to move out and soon as possible. It's also a good idea for YOU to tell a trusted person she has said this.

I'm not sure what culture you come from but if it's not western, I know that these situations can get very serious so make sure you are protected! Just get this girl out as soon as you can and inform someone. I do hope she is ok.



January 12, 2012 - 12:06pm
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