My finacé and I have been together for seven months and got engaged four months ago. We had sex the first night we were together, chemistry was there I thought. I had known about his very promiscuous sexual lifestyle before me. I forced him to take STD test and he has genital herpes. We had sex a few times and I contracted gential herpes from him. As time went on, he was less and less interested, to the point where he just rejected me, in a nice/not so nice way, finds excuses, too tired, stressed out other times is I don't look hot/slutty enough for him etc... He knows I am beautiful (and I know it too) as I have never had a hard time getting men's attention in a good way/classy, but his type of women are on porn magazines. This is the first time in my life that a man is not turned on by me and as strong as I am, it is starting to take a toll on me. He says he loves me, has never loved anyone and never wanted to marry any woman in his life, until he met me. He says he knows for sure he is not gay (and I can tell the way he looks at other women) but he can't manage to see me as a sexual partner. I am about to see a counselor next week. We did go to a couple therapist twice, no changes. He is taking the step to see a therapist alone.
Is our relationship doomed and am I wasting my time? Do I need to move on and cut the losses here?
Thank you so much for your help.
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