my fiance says he loves me but not attracted to me

By wantstobeloved June 18, 2010 - 2:23pm

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k i never done this before but its worth some advise me and my fiance have been together for 3 1/2 years now when we first got together it was true romance we did everything together we had sex every day if we went somewhere like to my parents house he would mess around with me he use to touch me all the time and when we got together i would say i was over weight a little but i never looked it that bad my weight then was 210 but i looked like i was 160 to 180 but everything was fine cuz he did not know how much i really was so we use to have se all the time and do things he use to take me out we went to dinner like every other night i stayed at his apartment on weekends then i moved into my own house so he came over every night to hang out and what not he had a very good job and i had a good job so now we have been dating for a year n half at this point well then i got injured at work and they put me on lite duty but then the fired me for using my right hand so i was unemployed but was still making it with savings and unemployment and everything was still good with me and my boyfriend then just out of the blue his boss called and said i cant afford you anymore so he lost his job so i was helping him threw that cuz he was very upset and he flipped out and sold his car but he still had his truck and he was out looking for another job the same day so i have alot on my plate so i pack his things and he moved in with me and he started a new job mean while im still not working im stressed alot cuz i dont want him to take care of me i want things to be equal half and half thats how a relationship should be i think so mean while everything is still going very well with us but me with out a job and going to therapy to see if it will help my arm everyday getting stuck with neddles everyday and going threw law suite was not fun so i was all depressed and stressed all at the same time went threw this for over a year no work cant do anything i gained more pounds so now im up to 234 and im not happy still cant work and my fiance just seems like he lost intrest in me with in the last 9 months or so he says it not me it him but when i try to make love to him he dont want it and if i try a little harder to get it he gets mad then he says sex just dont interrest him anymore but i just dont get it cuz i was over weight when we meet and we alwas did it and now he says it dont interested him and then he tells me he is not attracted to my body so i know it has to do with my weight gain cuz thats when it all started i really love him with all my heart it just hurts me that he dont even try to make love to me or even make me feel good he always tells me its nothing to do with me its him he goes to the gym every other day but he wont get me a gym membership thats not right i can afford to go to the gym to lose it and he dont need to go he is thin he is perfect i jusst dont know what to do i dont want to lose him sorry i just told you the whole story of my life told you it was my first time

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wantstobeloved (reply to Pat Elliott)

well is what im trying to ask is what can i do no i don't want to lose him im trying to figure out what he can do to change he says he needs help to get over the weight issue i keep telling him that it does not matter what is on the out side it matters whats inside im just trying to figure out what we can do to make are relationship better and what we can do with his issue of him not haven a sex drive i guess i ont know how to explain it

June 18, 2010 - 10:07pm