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My girlfriend doesn't feel any pleasure from simple vaginal sex. Her clitoris has to be stimulated or she feels no pleausre. Is this normal?

By March 29, 2012 - 6:22pm
 
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She's 21. We've been together for 3 years and i am her first.

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mr.qas,

That's great to hear! You two will be fine! Good luck with the long distance. I've been there--it's tough, but when your partner is awesome, it makes it easier! :)

Best,

Danielle.

March 30, 2012 - 8:16am

Thanks for your answer. She now feels more confident because she was starting to think there was something wrong with her (despite me telling her there probably wasn`t). We`ve had sex more than a few times, but I forgot to tell you that we`re now in a long distance relationship so 4 months pass everytime between us seeing each other. So that might be a factor too. She never gets fully used to it. Like everytime we see each other, she takes a bit to get used to sex again, and it`s a bit uncomfortable at the beginning. But then all goes well, she`s perfectly albe to have an orgasm from any kind of clitoral stimulation.
mr. qas.

March 30, 2012 - 8:03am

Hi mr.qas,

Welcome to EmpowHer!

It is absolutely normal for a woman to only feel pleasure if her clitoris is stimulated. Everyone is different, but this is not uncommon.

Sometimes it can take a while to get used to sex and begin to feel pleasure. Have you tried more than just a few times? Unfortunately, it isn't uncommon to not feel pleasure in the beginning. Sometimes it just takes practice!

Does she enjoy foreplay? Foreplay can often mean the difference between enjoyable and unenjoyable sex.

As a couple, you'll have a lot to work through. Sex may just be one of those things. But with practice, you'll get to know each other better and learn exactly how to pleasure one another. 

Here are a few links that may help: 

http://www.empowher.com/sexual-well-being/content/woman-cant-orgasm-duri...

http://www.empowher.com/sexual-well-being/content/ten-facts-about-female...

Best of luck to you both,

Danielle.

March 30, 2012 - 6:49am
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