Well, I'm a 23 year old female. My boyfriend is 36. No some have asked if the age difference is an issue. So far it hasn't been. When we first started out together we had a normal relationship. We 3-4 times a day, then it started to dwindle after 2 months. We would have sex maybe to three times a week. I expected this, knowing that the "hot and heavy" phase doesn't last forever, and knowing that 2-3 times a week was fairly normal. But to have it drop off so fast worried me. Then it suddenly went to only have sex once every two to three weeks. And now it's going on a month. We haven't even been together a year. Normally I would just chalk it up to stress. Which is does have. Between work, his beautiful son, and family he has a full plate. Not to mention the stress the failing economy has caused many people. Money. But we went through all this in the beginning too. And we still managed to have a fairly active sex life. But now he always to to have an excuse. Either his head hurts, his shoulder hurts, his stomach hurts, or he's just not in the mood. Sometimes all at the same time. I've tried to talk to him about it. But he refuses. He says he just has a lot on his mind. But he always wants to cuddle. He wants to hold me all the time. But no kissing, no nothing. Just sitting on the couch watching tv. This has been going on nearly half our relationship. Other then this, he's a great guy. Very sweet, loving, supportive. He's an excellent father. But in this one area...he just doesn't even seem to want to try. It makes me feel cheap, and degraded that I have to initiate sex every time, and have to work so hard to get him in the mood. He claims I want it all the time, and he can't keep up. But when I'm only getting it once ever few months I don't know what he expects. Before he claimed it had just been a rough month and he would bounce right back. But so far...I've seen a distinct lack of bouncing. I mean, I grew up hearing this problem when the other way around. That men couldn't get their women to sleep with them. But now I'm in a relationship were it NEVER happens. Our diet hasn't changed much, our stress is were it's been since we started. Has the romance just died? Does he not find me attractive? Could he be cheating on me? I don't really know how I feel about the last question. Because he really doesn't seem like the type. But whenever I've seen this happen in any relationship, the partner that starts refusing is cheating. I don't know what to think, or do. And I'm tired of feeling hurt and unattractive.
All user-generated information on this site is the opinion of its author only and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for any medical conditions. Members and guests are responsible for their own posts and the potential consequences of those posts detailed in our Terms of Service.