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My hubby won't have sex with me or show affection

By Anonymous April 15, 2015 - 3:09pm
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So, since the birth of our little boy he has not wanted me r sexually anymore (i get s up with the wee one all the time at night). He won't even look at me the same way, and when I asked him why they don't have sex, he told me "I don't know, maybe I'm just to comfortable with you to have sex." In the mean time when theast time they got down to business he had told her "ya know, it takes to long for a woman to orgasim." Then proceed to fall asleep while fingering me (i had asked him to finish her off because i never came to orgasim, it's been pretty wham bam thank you ma'am type sex. I asked him because I e thought he may like that) he was previously wide awake and it was only 7pm at night. He also seems to really like watching "teen(the barely legal type teen Porn where the girls are only 18" Porn and tiny little asian women porn and beat his stick. Why would he being doing this? I also keep asking him if he is happy and he still loves me and he said he does but he seems so UN happy and angry all the time, and we had an amazing sex life until I got pregnant. I keep getting the feeling he is lieing to me and keeping secrets. It's been almost 2 years since we have talked of had meaningful sex, he has also told me I was lazy when I was pregnant(I was far from lazy I worked in a production plant until my boy was born on my feet doin 12hr continental shifts and still came home made dinner and still did all the house work and he would usually just sit there) r and is calling me lazy while I am at home and he is working (I'm sorry I'm not super woman I need help with things around Th e house not alot just a few ya know). Th e fact he shows no more affection to me and only looks after our boy so he never has to help is really getting to me and I want to leave him I have reached my breaking point I feel unloved and worthless.

Thank you for your advise and opinions

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Hi Anon

Unfortunately, your husband is being a jerk and insulting you by calling you lazy and telling you he doesn't want to have sex with you.

It's hard to say why - only he knows that.  

But you don't have to put up with this - tell him how you are feeling and that you want to feel wanted and loved. 

I think if you feel there is a secret, then there is probably a secret. Go with your gut instinct. Talk to him and he if chooses not to engage with you, you have some big decisions to make.  Don't give up - any relationship can be saved it both people want it to.



April 15, 2015 - 4:05pm
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Anonymous (reply to Susan Cody)

Thank you for your advice, and I am sorry about all the spelling and grammar errors. I posted this from my phone in quite the hurry.

April 17, 2015 - 6:00am
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