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My husband has a porn addiction, should I let him take pictures of me?

By March 15, 2009 - 8:10pm
 
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My husband is struggling with a porn addiction. I think that it is wrong for him to look at porn, for religious reasons, and also just that it is detrimental to our relationship. He wants to take pictures of me, but I'm concerned that wouldn't be healthy either, that it could be feeding his addiction rather than helping with it. Does anyone have any advice on this?

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Anonymous

ahaa!! This is getting to some real talking - yeah i give blow jobs to my husband like evryday and sometimes its tiring though exciting..am just wondering why he still looks at porn pictures and am wondering whether he has joined some porn clubs already..Please help..

September 22, 2012 - 2:26pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Your husband looking at porn has absolutely nothing to do with you or how much sex you give him.

March 8, 2013 - 1:10pm
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Anonymous

This is great for me especially as I'm also facing the same problem. I was scared at first and I couldn't believe that my husband was going into pornography.I still don't know how to put it across to him because I really don't like to offend him with his privacy but I'm scared he might try to actually see other girls if he gets out of control with his addiction.

Thanx Sav.

September 22, 2012 - 2:18pm

Hi silver_girl,
This is a difficult question to answer, because in my opinion, I have viewed porn as a sex manual of some sort (although with bad music and bad plotlines, they tend to not make any sense at times) but if used a great tool to spice your life, I think its a good idea.
However, what I am against is, taking photographs since he does watch it a lot (and not knowing him on a personal level), I would be concerned if he would post them online. However, the best way to know this is to have a communication with your husband regarding this topic and come to an understanding regarding your comfort level regarding your concerns.
Best of luck!

September 13, 2011 - 9:16am
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Anonymous

Oh i know too- why don't you act sexy and fun like you did when you first met him. Give him blow jobs like you use to on an everday basis. Oh and you wonder why he looks at porn when you don't do those things anymore. Geeez. Women these days are manipulative creatures. Suck penis in the beginning to get the man to commit and then slowly stop giving sex. Then use sex as a way to get what you want. Your man will be cheating on you in less than a few months if you keep that up. Take my advice..next time you see your husband...tell him to sit on the bed..drop his pants and go to town on it! Let him finish in your mouth. I bet your husband won't look at porn anymore. and don't ask for anything in return..just say" Because I love you"

September 13, 2011 - 7:26am
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The man is trying to talk to about it at least and women these days to just shoot a man down. You think your knight and shining armor is so perfect but little do you know, they watch porn too or want pictures of their wife naked. Stop trying to mold the guy and let him be a man. At least he isn't going out to strip clubs with his buddies and wasting the family money. No he is watching at HOME FREE PORN. Make sure you examine yourself as a wife before you attack your husband. I'm sure there are many things you do that he overlooks.

September 13, 2011 - 7:22am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Please, if you don't know the difference between watching porn casually and struggling with a porn/sex addiction, then do not comment. You are not being helpful. If someone tells you that they or someone they know is struggling with a sex addiction, don't be abbrasive and condensending by assuming they are not. Also, if you do not believe in sex addiction, either do not comment because anything you say will come from a place of condesendence and ignorance, do through research until you do believe and understand what someone with sex addiction is struggling with. Please do not get on this forum and belittle or insult people's struggles the way you just did. You are maddenly unhelpful and rude.

July 10, 2017 - 7:18am
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Anonymous

Sorry Ladies....but this man simply has a fantasy. He sees naked women on the internet, masturbates, and then here comes his wife nagging about his "addiction" only making him uncomfortable. So he says to himself, "i want to make my wife happy BUT I do like seeing naked pictures or videos. It turns me on. Maybe my wife will let me have pictures of her. Then whenever I need a fix, I don't need to look at other women- I can see my beautiful wife naked." Ladies, your minds are very closed and narrow. In your question, you were just attacking him the whole time. Tell us about your conversation with him about his feelings on why he looks at porn and why he wants to take pictures of you. Let's stop making up stories and assuming we all know what the man is thinking. It's ok to have an oppinion but really you need to talk to him.

September 13, 2011 - 7:16am
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Anonymous

holy crap..... you wont even let him take pics of you? what an uptight B.... and jesyus sucks btw. have him email me and ill send him pics
Mendez2619@sbcglobal.net

September 9, 2011 - 4:07pm

You might just be enabling your husband if you agree to let him take the pictures. It sounds as though he has breached your trust. Here is an excellent resource for intervention that you may find useful: The Intervention Guide - knowing when it's time to get help

August 24, 2011 - 10:41pm
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