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Is my libido gone forever?

By Anonymous September 20, 2011 - 12:31pm
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I was a virgin when I get married to my husband. Beforehand, we'd "play around" but never too far. I would get "excited" just making out with him. It came easily. About 6 months before the wedding, I started birth control. My libido pretty much became non-existent. I was having complications with the bc so I stopped after 3 months. My libido didn't return. I figured it was just my reaction from the bc. I went to the primary physician as well as the gyno and was told they can't do anything for my libido due to a pre-existing liver problem. Now that it's been over a year, I just can't get into. I figured after a year, all the trials and errors would have been figured out. Is my libido gone forever? Please help!!

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I hope that it won't be gone forever. It sounds like you are a young woman, so we can rule out perimenopause and fluctuating estrogen levels as the culprit. However, I did find some information for you and there is a connection between hormones and your pre-existing liver condition.
What you are experiencing has a name: HSDD or hypoactive sexual desire disorder.
"While male sex drive is easy to define -- and relatively easy to restore -- that's often not the case for women. Because the female sex drive is multifactorial, the desire to make love is not only influenced by physical issues, but emotional ones as well.

"Part of the desire to make love is clearly physical, but part is also emotional – depression can make a difference, so can any emotional issue in a woman's life; female sex drive is very multidimensional," says Glenn D. Braunstein, MD, an endocrinologist and chair of the department of medicine at Cedars Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles.
Emotions are frequently behind a loss of sex drive in younger women, doctors say it is frequently the aging process itself that's causes changes in desire in women over age 45.
While estrogen levels are important, the latest research shows that the male hormone testosterone also plays a role in a woman's sex drive. Though present in only tiny amounts, some doctors say it's the seasoning that makes her sex drive sizzle. studies show that sometimes the very treatments women take to control midlife symptoms -- such as HRT or low-dose birth control pills -- can actually disrupt desire by robbing the body of testosterone.
When these hormones are taken orally, they are metabolized by the liver, which in turn puts out a protein that binds to testosterone, causing a deficiency,.This can also be true for younger women using birth control pills for contraception. Adding tiny amounts of testosterone back into the body may be the solution. This is still controversial and the FDA has not yet approved the testosterone patch for women.
I hope this information is helpful and provides you with something to discuss with your gynecologist.

September 20, 2011 - 2:56pm
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