Hello, Im Rajaa. Ive been married three months ago to a non virgin man. Im a virgin. Ive been trying to have intercourse with my husband but the fear has dominated my mind till the point that I refuse even to get touched! We discussed this issue several times, my husband showed understanding, love and patience. I even went to the gynaecologist who confirmed that I have a tight vagina which is why i feel pain once the penis touches the outside part of the vagina, but I failed all these months to get over the first intercourse. Im sharing my story cause my husband ( hopelessly) asked me to spend some time apart so i may solve this psychological fear by myself as he feels a failure not to help me..we have a great love, a wonderful marriage, but this issue is so important that it keeps destroying our marriage :(
I want to say that my only issue is the fear of pain, i haven’t been assaulted in my childhood, nor have I been abused.. Im just a coward to take this pain to save my marriage..I even thought going to the gynecologyst for a surgery to help widening the opening of the vagina, but my husband sees the problem as far more than just intercourse: psychological fear which impacts on other aspects of my life.. I honestly cant see where this fear has other impacts other than sex but my husband says that I got stuck in the fear..
That's the overall story, i feel helpless really
Thank you for reading my story..Rajaa
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