Not sure why but everytime I try to have sex with my boyfriend, it is far too painful. I've read a few girls have said it took them a few times for the pain to stop when they had intercourse, while the lucky most said it was just mild discomfort before they were pain-free.
*Note: my first gyno visit, I received an exam (not sure what kind exactly) but I was a virgin and I know it involved a speculum. It hurt/burned INTENSELY, felt almost traumatic.
So.. the first time I tried sex it was without a condom, he was able to go in a little less than halfway, but it hurt/stung too much, feeling quit similar to the exam except he didn't force his way in there, which it probably would've felt that way if he did. We stopped.
I didn't try after that anymore, but felt completely defeated and frustrated. It seemed like it felt easier with the lubed condom, but I can't even tell if it's able to go in all the way due to the fact that it kept slipping out. Otherwise, it hurts like hell. Could it be because I need lube? I am currently on birth control and I feel as though it's brought my sex drive a bit down, as well as makes me more dry, which is sort of a paradox since it protects against pregnancy yet makes me feel less aroused.
I've also read about vaginismus, which is another terrifying possibility, but I have no psychological nor physiological issues that could've caused it, and I've heard when one attempts intercourse, the vagina closes, causing the penis to "hit a wall" but my vagina did not close during the exam nor during intercouse so I'm unsure if it's that.
I suppose I am just wondering if it could be because I need more lube, vaginismus, or an unusual hymen.. I plan to try another time, and if it seems to be the same, I'm going to make another visit to my gynecologist, but I'd still like some insight.
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