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Pregnancy or an idiot?

By Anonymous August 28, 2016 - 11:16am
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Hi. For the purpose of this post you can call me K. Hope your ok and in the best of health.

Well I have a problem which seems to be getting in the way of my day to day affairs. I was previously sexually assaulted which basically made me crappy all year. I recently met this great guy in June. We both agreed that we will not have sex until after marriage but we do other things to keep both of us excited [like we stimulate each other by touching each other]. The last time this happened was on August 2nd. I have read that certain activities do have a pregnancy risk. I wouldn't usually get scared over this but the bit that worries me is when he took down his trousers, I do not know whether his hand brushed onto his penis or if he touched himself and got pre-ejaculate on his hands. I spoke to him about this and he just laughed and said how crazy it was because we never even had intercourse. I get his point but I have been feeling abit weird. I really like this guy and do not want to lose him and I'm just afraid that if I do turn out to be pregnant he will think I've had sex elsewhere. I know he can take a paternity test but it would break my heart if he thought like that. I think I began my period on Monday and lasted for 5 days (normal) but the last few days I felt nausea and just dizzy and faint headed. I am underweight and I don't know whether this could've been down to a huge amount of blood? I spoke to my doctor about everything on Thursday I think and she just said pregnancy cannot occur if he did not penetrate me. I feel really off and I don't know what I can do :/ I thought once I see that blood I will be ok again and back to normal and can focus on other things.

I'm thinking of doing a test BUT I don't know whether the test would be reliable by now or whether I should wait?

Could you please advise me because I just want this scare gone so I can focus on my education.

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Hello and welcome to EmpowHer,
Even if there was sperm on his hands it cannot travel into your vagina, even if he touched your vagina. You cannot become pregnant without having intercourse. Your symptoms are not related to pregnancy. You can trust what your doctor said. She is right.
I suggest that you take B-Complex and Iron supplements that will help with the dizziness and light headedness.
You had a normal period, so that is even more proof that you are not pregnant. It is a myth the women have periods during pregnancy. Vaginal bleeding that happens during pregnancy is only spotting that lasts one or two days.
No need to worry.

August 28, 2016 - 5:19pm
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Anonymous (reply to fchacon)

Also, if I take a home preg test to calm my nerves.. Will it be accurate by now

(This all happened on the 2nd August)

Thanks for your time

August 29, 2016 - 1:33am
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Anonymous (reply to fchacon)

Thanks so much for your reply
Just one more question : could the light headedness and nausea be down to losing huge amounts of blood during my menstrual cycle. I am already 98lbs and that is considered underweight for my height (which is about 5'3 or 5'4) ?

That's the only thing I can think of if not pregnancy (when I lie down I don't feel as sick. It's only when I'm doing stuff and trying to be more productive)

August 29, 2016 - 12:55am
Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Heavy bleeding during menstrual periods can cause anemia. Anemia causes symptoms such as: nausea, light headedness, dizziness, mood swings, depression. Since you are underweight, it is even more likely that you may get anemia.
I suggest that you be tested by a doctor. if you do have anemia, it can easily be remedied by eating more red meat and taking iron pills.

September 3, 2016 - 4:28pm
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