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Pregnancy worries WITHOUT intercourse?

By Anonymous June 7, 2010 - 6:34pm
 
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I can't believe I'm asking this but I'm starting to freak out a little bit.
A few days after my period ended, my boyfriend and I were "messing around." He put his bare penis up to my bare vagina and started rubbing before I told him to stop and put on a condom. (I'm not on any other form of birth control right now.) No ejaculation and no penetration, just possible precm on my vagina.
I didn't think anything of it at the time, but now my period is a few days late - I've had some weird light brown spotting with period-esque cramps, but no period. My breasts are tender and look a little bigger to me, and my skin has absolutely exploded with acne (although that is not unusual for me). I'm kind of freaking out.

I am absolutely exhausted, but to be fair, I have been sleeping an average of four hours a night and have a whole lot of stress in my life right now. We haven't even had sex yet because I am undergoing treatment for vaginsmus - penetration and intercourse is too painful for me, something I'm working on with physical therapy.

I took a sensitive early test the day my period should have come, and it was negative, but still no period. A pregnancy would be absolutely devastating, especially without intercourse - I'm not even sure my boyfriend would believe me. :(

I should mention that I recently stopped taking the Pill because it was making me super depressed and physically ill. I was told to expect some cycle weirdness after stopping, but I'd gone through two full cycles and my period seemed perfectly normal.
Am I making myself nuts or is there a real risk here?

Thanks very much for your help.

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Anonymous

Hi i gave my boyfriend a hand job and he ejaculated then wiped it. Around twenty minutes after, we were messing around again and he was rubbing his penis against my vagina up until the tip so precum may have come in contact. There was no penetration.

Now I'm delayed. I have the ff symptoms:
1. Breast tenderness and the tips are bigger
2. Discharge
3. Light stomach pains (or cramps)
4. Bloating (but this may be due to increased eating during the holiday season)

Is there a possibility of being pregnant?

December 30, 2016 - 2:56am
Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hello Anonymous,

Wait for your next period. If you are late by at least one week, test for pregnancy. That is the way to know.

Regards,
Maryann

December 30, 2016 - 10:20am

Hi, so two weeks ago a friend and I were messing around and he fingered me but I never came in direct contact with his penis so there was no penetration. However, he did say that he had some pre cum come out and I don't think that he touched it before fingering me. He said that everything was safe and I believe it is but after the fingering I had cramping and I haven't had any normal pregnancy symptoms except for cramping and some lower back pain but that is most likely because my period is in two days. I'm worried that stress will cause the delay of my period but I'm just worried even though there was no genital contact, penetration, and I don't think he touched his precum before fingering me. If so, I don't think the precum would've survived outside long enough. So anyways, I've read from manyyyy different sources that precum only has sperm if the male hasn't urinated since ejaculation; and since there was no penetration, do I have any reason to be worried? Thanks, please let me know!

December 28, 2016 - 3:09pm
Guide (reply to cookie99)

Hello cookie99,

You are correct. Stress can cause a delay in the start of your period.

You can relax because I do not think you were at risk for becoming pregnant.

Pre-ejaculate fluid itself does not contain sperm. If the male has had a prior but recent ejaculation, say from masturbating, some sperm can remain in his urethra. The urethra is a tube that semen and urine pass through. Once he urinates, any sperm is flushed out.

With no penetration and no ejaculation, you have nothing to worry about.

Regards,
Maryann

December 29, 2016 - 9:26am
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Anonymous (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Actually i did the same thing my gf gave me a bj n then i just touched the foreskin of my penis but not the tip then i fingered her only in the lips i didnt masterbate for 4 days n regularly i pee over 4 times n before the incident also i had urinated n that was precum or saliva so can you just help me it will cause pregnancy or not im hyper tensed

January 2, 2017 - 10:16pm
(reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Thank you so much!

December 29, 2016 - 10:53am
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Anonymous

Hi, last week me and my boyfriend were messing around in his condo. His penis never had direct contact with my vagina, but we were constantly dry humping in our underwear. We both were really wet, and there were wet stains on his undies, which we weren't sure was his or mine (most probably mine since i had an orgasm and he didnt ejaculate). He also constantly fingers me, and we're both not sure if he has precum on his fingers, and are worried that precum couldve got in my vagina..

We both never had sex ed before, but we know that i cant get pregnant unless he ejaculates inside of me. But we cant help but feel super uper scared since we come from a traditionally strong background. My period is now late 4 days, on going 5, and the longer it delays, the more scared we get.

To be fair, i just travelled back home 7 days ago, and got sick afterwards. Yesterday i started to want to vomit, although all that came out was air. HOWever, that might've been caused by irregular eating patterns and heartburn, since i ate very little and drank medicine the day before. In addition to this, ive been having panic attacks and am constantly stressing out about the possibility of being pregnant. I've been heavily stressed over the last month over school work as well, although not as stressed as this.

My period rarely comes in late, usually on time if not earlier. Please someone help me answer this, it would mean the whole entire world to me, thankyou SO much.

December 2, 2016 - 4:54am
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Anonymous

I also had the same situation happen. It was around a week after my period ended and we were both naked and he rubbed his against mine and there could have been pre cm. He never ejaculated and hadn't before then but I am worried sick.

November 27, 2016 - 6:38pm
Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hello Anonymous,

Pre ejaculate fluid itself does not contain sperm. If he had a recent ejaculation, some sperm may have remained in his urethra. But, if he urinated, any sperm was flushed out.

Otherwise, without penetration and ejaculation, there was no risk. Wait for your period, then you will know.

Regards,
Maryann

November 28, 2016 - 10:28am
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Anonymous

Hello!
I have a very irregular menstrual cycle lasted for 35-60 days. A month and half ago on my 23rd day of cycle I did make out with my boyfriend. I was naked while he just wore boxers. There was no penetration. But we both were wet. About 2 week ago, i experienced 6 days of brown vaginal discharge. I thought it was period. But after googling around, i found out that it can be one of the early symptoms of pregnancy. So my biggest concern is that can i get pregnant without penetration with my boyfriend boxers on? If not, why after 66 days of cycle i still did not have my period? And what is the significant of having brown vaginal discharge?

November 20, 2016 - 12:22pm
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