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By Keisha lee
 
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im 18 and my boy friend is 21 well he's in college and im applying for college next year. the problem is we don't communicate as we should well i can understand that he has exams that he has to study for but at least he can call me and say how are you, we ave not spoken in 10 days now and im getting tired of this situation i do care about him and i do give him his space, i don't nag i listen to him its visa verse with him and me. we haven't had sex as yet as its very hard for me to relax and be comfortable i know im not ready and i told him and he understood, i know he is a guy and he does get casual sex from other girls which i don't complain about because i know im not giving him sex at all. i called him last week saturday night about couple minutes after 10 i woke him up and after 8 minutes he tells me he has to go and study i persisted but he told me that i knew he had exams and he doesn't want to be disturbed and that he would call me when he has time since then we have not spoken for i have refused 2 call him. My mom told me from day 1 that i should leave this boy alone and i think its time i took that advice i really care about him. i never dated much as he is my second boyfriend we do indulge in foreplay which im not too comfortable doing but i do it with him because i care abt him
please give me some advice for i am getting real tired of him.

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Keisha lee

well he gets angry when i tell him he he getting sex from other girls when he asks me to have sex with him, we talked about it and i asked him why he gets angry and tells me he gets angry because he only wants to have sex with me and not other girls and the reason why he has sex with them is because he's not getting it from me. I know im not ready to ave sex and i wont hurt my self and want i stand for to please him im sorry but that is just how it is, i believe if he truly loves me he would stop doing the things he's doing and wait on me until im ready.

December 6, 2012 - 4:37pm
miss inexperienced

im sorry but you need to stop contacting him...I have a feeling if you dont call he will not be heard from.I think he doesnt wanna be a jerk and just figures one day you will just give up on him and he will be "off the hook"I think he has woman sleep over and thats why he gets of the phone so quickly in th AM...Its cuz some girl is laying next to him.Im just tellin it like it is.you cant call him your boyfriend if he has casual sex with other people.good luck finding yourself

December 5, 2012 - 10:53am
Keisha lee

thanks for the advice i really do appreciate your help.

November 28, 2012 - 11:06am
Maryann Gromisch RN Guide

Hello Keisha lee,
Your last sentence says it all..."I am getting real tired of him."

The time may have come when you and your boyfriend need to go your separate ways. You will be attending college next fall and meeting new friends. He is busy with exams, college work, and socializing with his college friends.

Maybe, some time apart will be good for both of you. There is a saying, "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours. If it doesn't , it never was yours."

Maryann

November 27, 2012 - 6:32pm
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