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By February 17, 2015 - 10:36pm
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Married 53 years,,,should be a breeze,,,he drinks every day from 5pm on...he is a meek and mild fellow ( heart bypass 14 years ago). He is near 75 now..spends the day walking from window to window or doing puzzles. Or going for beer or groceries. If his sister calls he will go help. I exist I a cloud of grey...I cannot do anything but sit and eat. Our daughter died suddenly in July. 48 yrs old...we do not mention her. Since then I am unable to knit or sew. What now....how do I be myself without the overwhelming presence of him pacing.
Thanks for advice.

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Hello Paige449,

My heart goes out to you. I am truly sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter and the poor quality of life you are experiencing. I can appreciate how oppressive it must be not to be able to talk about your daughter or freely express your feelings.

Do you have the opportunity to get out of the house, such as go to a senior center? Getting out of the house for a couple of hours and interacting with others may help.

Is volunteering an option? Consider volunteering a couple of hours at your local hospital or library.

Please keep in touch if you need to vent.


February 18, 2015 - 9:29am
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