Facebook Pixel
EmpowHER Guest


By Anonymous October 31, 2014 - 11:55pm
Rate This

My boyfriend of almost 3 years no longer wants to have sex with me, I have caught him watching porn a lot I have asked him to stop, he tells me he has but our sex life is really suffering, he tells me he loves me and wants to marry me. We both are in our mid 50's, I am a very sexual person, I need the kissing and hugging, at this point I am ready to walk out! I know he also masturbates while watching porn. This really hurts me. And when we have sex he does not seem to be with me.

Add a Comment1 Comments

HERWriter Blogger

Hello Anon,

Thank you for visiting the EmpowHER community to share your question! As you are such a sexual person and love your boyfriend very much, I imagine this must be difficult to deal with. 

It's very important to communicate with your boyfriend about how you feel. Especially since this is so hurtful to you, it's needed to talk to him about what you're feeling. He may not be aware that you feel so upset about this.

It is not fair to you if your boyfriend has replaced watching porn and mastrubating instead of having sex with you. Sometimes watching porn frequently can cause people to not want or need the real thing anymore. Sometimes porn can turn into an addiction too rather than health masturbation.

I highly recommend talking to your boyfriend about the issue and explaining how much it is hurting you. If he truly cares about you and loves you so much, he will not want you unhappy and should be willing to make things better. You are worth way more than being in a relationship that focuses on porn rather than sex.

I hope this has helped. Please keep me updated on the situation!


November 1, 2014 - 3:21pm
Enter the characters shown in the image.
By submitting this form, you agree to EmpowHER's terms of service and privacy policy
Add a Comment

All user-generated information on this site is the opinion of its author only and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for any medical conditions. Members and guests are responsible for their own posts and the potential consequences of those posts detailed in our Terms of Service.

Sex & Relationships

Get Email Updates

Resource Centers

Sex & Relationships Guide

HERWriter Guide

Have a question? We're here to help. Ask the Community.


Health Newsletter

Receive the latest and greatest in women's health and wellness from EmpowHER - for free!